but do I have any say in selecting doctors and schools for my son especially he got some sort of Autism problems. She did not notify me to go see the doctor with him or attend any school meeting. Can she does it and cut me off because she has full custody ?
2006-07-16 04:27:08 · 11 answers · asked by gshock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's a difference between full PHYSICAL custody and full LEGAL custody. You need to find out if your ex wife has both or if you share legal custody. I know it's confusing. For example, my ex and I share legal custody (which means he has a say in their schools and doctors, etc.) but I have full physical custody (which means the kids live with me all the time). It's important you know exactly what's in your divorce papers and have a certified copy with you at all times to prove it.
2006-07-16 04:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by morganga1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can, but you can also go back to court and amend your agreement, to say that she include you in doctors and school appointments.
Or at the very least have it written in that she relay all the information about your son's care along to you.
Sometimes it's just easier to get your son the care he needs, with her having full custody because alot of docs and schools will not provide care or implement programs with out both of you there to sign the forms and so on and if you have to work or what ever, the treatment will be delayed.
2006-07-16 11:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by liathano70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your ex-wife has full legal custody of your son, then she gets to make all the decisions about your sons health, school, doctors, etc.. If you have joint legal custody, than you and your wife both have the legal right to make decisions about your son. But, just out of curiosity, and coming from a divorced male that has joint custody of his kids, why would you give up custody of your son. Your son needs you as much as he needs his mom. Its people like you that give dad's a bad name.
2006-07-16 12:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask the court for an order for 'knowledge of all material matters' involving your son, including doctors, school etc. You can also ask for the right to communicate directly with these people yourself. That way, if your ex is making decisions you don't agree with, you can fight it in court.
You can also get an order preventing removal from your state for the purposes of relocating (moving) without your written permission. Right now, she can tell you she's moving to Alaska and you'd have to go to court to fight it.
I'd also get it in writing the time you are to pick up your son for visitation (eg, the 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends of each month from 5 pm Friday to 5 pm Sunday).
God Bless!
2006-07-16 11:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back and look at your divorce agreement... does she have full control ? or just full custody? There is a difference!
2006-07-16 11:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have full placement or full custody? If she has placement then yes you have rights. If she has custody, then no you reslly do not have much say.
2006-07-16 12:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are paying for his child support she should give you all the info ..if you aren't you should go back to court so you can get everything done legally and that way you will know
2006-07-16 11:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sign anything? If you did, then you basically signed your rights away as a parent... If not, you probably do have a say.
2006-07-16 11:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has full custody of the kid, then yeah, she can do that.
2006-07-16 11:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
probaby yes, why would you let go of your rights then start complaining?
2006-07-16 11:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋