2006-07-16 04:21:40 · 30 answers · asked by sunday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't have expectations. Remember, the outcome is always the same in the end. You both die.
So just enjoy the moment!!!!
2006-07-16 04:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoul 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This has happened to me with two different boyfriends. The first boyfriend broke up with me after 1.5 years and told me that he didn't feel the same way. I was distraught and very upset about it, but a month later he said he wanted to work things out and so I gave him a second chance. About 2-3 months into it, I knew it was a mistake and after 6 months we broke up again. I knew that was the final time, even though he tried to get back with me yet a month later! (By the way, we were 20-21 years old).
The second boyfriend is my current one now. We were together for 3.5 years and living together when one day he told me he didn't feel the same way about me and that he wasn't sure if he was ready for marriage, etc. We were broken up for 2 months and then he came back for a second chance. If our relationship was anything like my first boyfriend, I would have said no, but I really felt like he was The One and so I said yes. It has been 3 months since then and we are really happy. Life was just horrible without each other. (We are 25-26).
In the end, my experience was that both guys didn't know what they wanted. Immaturity and young age were both big factors. While my first relationship was not great because we fought a lot and were unhappy, the second one is actually much healthier and we are able to talk about our problems and communicate. I don't know what the final outcome will be, but sometimes you have to take a second chance in love. Just don't have unrealistic expectations and don't keep making the same mistakes over and over...
2006-07-16 11:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pumpkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with the same guy for about 8 years now...and in the beginning we were breaking up on Monday and getting back together on Friday....I was really bored with the whole thing so I told him that is it next time we break up we are broken up for good...that was about 4 years ago...the relationship still is not good ...I guess I just stick around because I am too lazy to find and train a new man
2006-07-16 11:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by USuck79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy on and off for about two years and then we split up "forever". We didn't see each other for more than two years, and never thought we'd see each other. Then we randomly saw each other on the street and started talking and "aim"-ing and clearing the old issues. Two years later we are living together happier than ever. I guess we both have grown and changed, and now we happen to have the same goals in life and love each other.
2006-07-16 11:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aneta G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea most people just aren't able to forgive and forget plus the reasons that made you split in the first place will still be there. The irritating personality traits will still be there etc
2006-07-16 11:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I split up with my first husband once after 6 months of marriage. I should have left him then rather than spend another 5 1/2 years of hell.
2006-07-16 11:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think things were ever the same as the first time around. Unless the reasons you split up have changed or you have both changed as people and want different things than you did the first time (assuming that what you want is now the same as what they want) than I dont think it could ever work
2006-07-16 11:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by ~angel~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you both have to discuss why you broke up in the first place, then you fix that problem together (do not hope things will get better, make it better) and make sure it doesnt happen again. If you do not talk about what caused the breakup, you'll probably breakup again soon. Four months max.
2006-07-16 11:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Javon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we had nearly two years apart, the outcome is i have more confidence a new job a healthier lifestyle, hubby is happier and i an not so needy of him, so for us yes it worked, its not the same as before but it cant be spending that amount of time apart we both learnt different things about ourselves, But we are happy. its not for every one others have not been so lucky.
2006-07-16 11:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by dreamyuk67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I haven't. But my daughter and her husband married in 2002 after living together for 4 years. They divorced in 2003; remarried in 2004; had a beautiful daughter in 2006. They are very happy.
2006-07-16 11:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ricky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋