i want to ask the man i love to forgive me?

Question

i have selfharmed and I am trying to get my partner to understand and forgive me, It hard to try to explain where i,m coning from Please can you help

Answer 1

I used to self harm years and years ago.STOP IT NOW!!!!!! please go and see your doctor,when you want to do it,to vent your anger and get the pain out please do this: go and beat up your pillows.even if all the feathers come out.batter,punch and do it until you are knackered.try it for a couple of weeks,please please do not end up my age with scars,regretting doing it.finally seeing sense.take care

Answer 2

I confessed to my husband about my self harming and luckily he understood. I have stopped now but still get tempted, its hard to explain to people and its a taboo subject, people think its ridiculous but dont realise how hard it is. What are his reasons for being mad with you, is it because you didnt tell him or because of the act itself? We dont choose to behave in such destructive ways, the important thing is that you receive help and gain control. Next time your tempted and you feel you must harm then hold some ice on your skin as it causes pain but doesnt do damage but remember this IS NOT a long term solution. I have learned to recognise the signs and take a different action like running or swimming. Maybe if you started some counselling he would see you were serious about stopping, perhaps he got scared its a pretty shocking thing to hear. My husband was horrified but confessed later it was because he felt guilty for not realising what was going on. Maybe he has turned his guilt and anger at himself onto you. Prove to him your going to try and stop, be brutally honest with him if you can and if he loves and deserves you he will forgive you, you can change and be happy i am proof of that, good luck xx

Answer 3

If by self harmed you mean you have attempted suicide,then you need more than forgiveness,you need professional counseling.
IF you are truly asking for forgiveness,then only time will bring about a healing in his soul.

Answer 4

i'm sry to hear about your troubles but think about why you wonna hurt your self and then go talk to a professional about it there are lots of ways you can stop this from proceeding i was once that way because my pass was messed up i use to feel unwanted insecure about myself and when i wanted to hit cut and punch myself i went to the mirror and asked myself why why why and i thought about everything that bought me to this place and i talked to someone and i'm ok now some methods work for diffrent people so please sweetie get help before it's too late and make your partner understand if he can't be your support system let him go relationships are about trust honesty and support so becareful and let me know how it turns out

Answer 5

He won't forgive you, if he thinks you'll do it again he will say the words, but if you truly love him, you wont ask him to forgive you,
Self Harming is a coping mechanism, like drugs, and like drugs you will always have an urge to do it again the more you smoke there harder, it is to quit. IF YOU QUIT TOTALLY HE WILL FORGIVE YOU WITHOUT EVEN ASKING HIM TO!

Answer 6

Your partner if they have any compassion should forgive you. If they don't then you cannot trust them to be there for any other trials that life will throw at you.

Answer 7

You havent done antyhing wrong, therefore dont need forgiving. You need support not judgement. Good luck hun
x

Answer 8

It will be hard for him to understand because he doesn't understand how you really feel inside. Ask him to go to consoling with you so you can work through this together.

Answer 9

don't need to appologise, it him who has to ask for forgiveness, why did he let you go into that situation...

Answer 10

hmm well youll have to do it in a nice friendly way