What is the most significant attribute of a successful marriage?

Question

I think it is when each person wants the best for the other.

Answer 1

Many, many prescription drugs. And a fully stocked bar wouldn't hurt also.

Answer 2

My husband and I have been married for twenty-one years, so I think that I might have a little experience on this question. There isn't just one thing that makes a successful marriage; it's a bunch of little things all tied together. Respecting each other's privacy and alone time; you don't have to spend twenty-four hours a day with someone, being honest and tactful takes a lot of practice to get good at, always talking if you have problems or something bothers you, even if it means going to your separate corners for a little while, then coming back and picking up where you left off. When you do argue, don't bring up the past, stick to what is bugging you NOW and talk about that. Don't say something on purpose to hurt the other person; treat the other person you would want to be treated, talked to, loved. Do special little things for each other for no reason at all. For example, if you know the other person likes chocolate covered cherries, then stop on your way home from work and buy them. Give them with a kiss and hug and a just because. This is what makes a marriage work.

Answer 3

wanting whats best for the other is always a good thing. Every one has named important issues and they all do make up a happy marriage. We will be celebrating our 35 in December. What stands out more in my mind between us is I like him and we laugh about almost everything. We never have taken things too seriously. Oh, there is work involved especially when the kids were growing up but I think even the children pick up on the atmosphere. They knew we were a team, had our rules and expected the best out of them. We, as a couple, simply decided we would be together til one of us died. We also found that if you wait a few days whatever was done that made you mad just didn't really matter anymore. We are verbal on our praise and love to each other. Quick to say "I'm sorry" whether it was your fault or not. Our 'sorry' is for being distant from the other. We always hate being distant which is what arguments do. I wish I knew the steps to tell you how to have a successful marriage. We simply chose to make it work. m

Answer 4

First of all mutual trust, compromise, unconditional love, etc. are essential for any successful marriage. There is no superiority or inferiority for couples in marriage. In case of any difference of opinion, discuss COOL and NEVER carry forward to the next day. If one shouts, the other should keep calm (does not mean surrender or failure). Once the rage calms down, the calmer one should explain this is not acceptable & what is the other side of it. Respect each other, praise loudly, critisize slowly and calmly, COMPROMISE. Share responsibilities and duties.

Answer 5

Significantly I would say the success lays in the hands of both that are neutral and understanding the trials and obstacles they will face together be it anything that happens and once you can overcome that, you got it made.
There is woman that found out her husband cheated on her. She was 54 her husband 52 and his affair was a 22 yr old young lady.

The woman replied to her husband that they have been married longer than she has been alive. The understanding of the relationship and what occured had no real sginificant bearing as to how they would survive it, but the key to it was they were both neutral to understand the principle of what happened and today they are still married successfully.
You figure it out!!!

Answer 6

HONEST communication. Letting each other know what you want or need (and learning the difference between those) in a way that is non-confrontational. Hiding things to "protect" the other person's feeligns will cause those small irritations to fester into a real wound over time.

Get things out in the open and learn to talk WITH each otehr, not just AT each other.

That's 21 years worth of marriage so far for me and my wife.

Answer 7

True love, respect, honesty. There are so many more things. None of them are more important than the other things. It is a total commitment to one another that keeps a marriage successful.

Answer 8

Trust, Communication, love, and respect. All need to be there in a healthy and successful marriage.

Answer 9

not only should you want the best for each other, but trust that in any situation you can feel secure that your mate will be there for you. there is not one significant attribute.all attributes are significant.

Answer 10

it is when they have something outside themselves that they focus on. Yes, respect is critical. Yes, love is critical. But remember that love is a constant not a changing thing.
Sex is good and important; also important to WAIT until marriage.

I have been married for 22 yrs. We have Christ at the center of our marriage. One big safeguard; we pray together. We also have a great sex life....which is exclusive and beautiful.

Answer 11

Acceptance, tolerance and compromise. Your partner will not be just like you and there will inevitably be things that irritate you. Decide what you can tolerate and what you can not. What you can tolerate, do so, accept your partner's differences, they are what make them special.
Compromise on what you feel you can not tolerate. Communicate with your partner and find a common ground.

Of course, respect, trust, loyalty, love and communication are all extremely important.