My husband and I were married for 4yrs. We have 2 children. Our divorce is not final due to the fact that it has been contested many times. I my current bf has issues with me and my ex talking and meeting to switch our children on the weekends. There is nothing between me and my ex. It's over and I love my bf very much. We keep on braking up because of this. Should I let him go or fight for him? (my bf). I am pregnant with my bf's baby. The baby is due in October. I want him to be around for it. Please help.
2006-07-16 03:18:13 · 21 answers · asked by Littlemissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your boyfriend is going to have to understand that no matter how jealous he is, you have to talk with your ex concerning your children with your ex. Jealousy is not a sign of love, or feelings, and it has no place in a relationship. If he can't deal with that, then kick him to the curb, and bust him for child support for this on. You've got bigger things to worry about than a jealous boyfriend freaking out because your kids from a previous marriage want to see their natural father. He needs to grow up. If this isn't settled soon, then it'll just keep on getting worse as time goes on. Best of luck to you.....
2006-07-16 06:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 00:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's got to grow up and be real. the fact that you have two kids with another man who has the right to see his own biological kids has nothing to do with your relationship other than the time it takes to exchange them and perhaps a few phone calls. if he's jealous he needs to get over it. that is an immature trait and if very unhealthy in a relationship. the fact that you two have a baby coming makes a huge difference. the first two children still need to feel special and the new one should have a father.
you all have to work together to make a happy family or else the whole situation could become very difficult.
I think he needs to be more accepting of your prior situation as he knew it all along and to acknowledge the importance of the new family he has created. or if he doesn't even want to be a father then I guess you'll just have to take his child support for 21 years and he'll find out how miserable some guy can make things when he wants to come visit his kid.....if he ever would.
Good Luck, hope he comes around:)
2006-07-16 03:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the soon to be ex will always have something in common and that is the fact that you 2 had kids together. The communication shouldn't stop between you 2 regarding the kids. You are still their parents no matter what. If your b/f has a problem with you and the ex communicating now, what's he going to be like when you and the ex need to discuss your children? Your b/f needs to realize this is not all about him and he needs to grow up and face facts and if he can't do that, you're better off without him because this will always be an issue with him.
2006-07-16 03:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little Missy,
Do you want an honest answer? ( then read below) Or do you want people to just feel sorry for you? ( Go to the next answer!)
1). How can you honestly start another relationship when you haven’t fully completed your first?
2). You hook up with this guy on the re-bound, and get pregnant , why do you think you two keep breaking up? Your little boy toy wants someone to take care of him! He doesn’t want to take care of you or even be partners. If you have to beg him to stay! Why do you want him?
3). Get your self and your life in order, think of your children first before you think of your-self, don’t think about what you need over your own children be a good mother put there needs FIRST! Now you have one waiting to be born, what kind of life does this child have to look forward to? Try to be friends with your ex-
These actions affect your children! You have a whole lot more going on than what you put here, sit down and think , because obviously you haven’t done that yet!
2006-07-16 04:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually in a relationship with a girl that was married and is still pending divorce. She doesn't have any children but they still have to talk for a few reason. They are trying to sell there house, cars and everything else that they owned together. I understand the situation. I know that they are over and I am totally secure with that. But in your situation there are children involved. Your bf needs to realize that it has nothing to do with you or your ex husband, its about the kids. Make him realize that the welfare of your children should supersede your own.
2006-07-16 04:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by mikeribby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have gotten yourself in a bad place. You are still married, have two children that you have to take care of through all of this, and have a boyfriend who got you pregnant but doesn't trust you.
Where were you when all this happened? You will have to continue to deal with your husband if for no other reason than you have two children together. If your boyfriend doesn't trust you now, when you are only going together and are pregnant with his child, when will he?
What you need now is a mother not a jealous boyfriend. You need someone who will take you, and love you, no matter what. But look what you have done. You are now tied to two men through children with them. Wow you can't make this stuff up.
Ask yourself this. Do I want to continue to fight with and loose a man that I am not even engaged to? What would it be like if you marry him? Because you clearly want to do right by your first husband you will continue to share your children. When does b/f decide this is okay now?
You had one bad marriage, you are heading toward another. GET OUT NOW as hard as it is to do. Find someone who will look at you and when they say I Love you, they will also mean I trust you.
2006-07-16 03:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very insecure, ask him how you can trade the kids on and off while not upsetting him. Maybe he would like to drop off or pick up for you. The baby is a good reason to keep trying, but if he cant accept the fact that their father will be around you until they are at least old enough to transport themselves, then you need to let him go.
2006-07-16 04:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him that you need to communicate w/ ur X to c ur children and that's very important to you because you love your children very much and need to see them. (trust me, i know. I'm a child in a divorce and It's important to c my mom) If your boyfriend doesn't agree then try making a deal like you'll talk to your X over the phone and make the arrangements then pull up to whereever you would meet, call your X to send the children out and they go in ur car (we have an order so our mom only calls me or my sis to talk about the visit because my mom and dad have major issues). If he still can't nderstand then he probably won't be very loyal father and you'll have to find a good and understanding guy quick or you'll be left hanging w/ the baby and your children.
2006-07-16 03:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by cowpie1994 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't understand that because you have kids with another man, that you will never actually "be rid" of him, then you can tell your bf to hit the road. Yeah, you are having his kid, but if you already have 2 then 1 more isn't going to make it any more difficult. Just make sure you take him for the child support he owes for his baby.
2006-07-16 03:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋