Spent the weekend with my partner after a bit of a fall out the other week, he then tells me he wants a proper break- which i agree to, We are having a long distance relationship after living together for two years, so naturally it has put a bit of a strain on our relationship
Anyway obvisouly Im upset about the break, then discover that he has made friends with a girl- (great, im chuffed that hes made a friend) He didnt tell her he was in a relationship, and she has sent him pictures of herself in her underwear- he's adamant that its all innocent, and says he loves me and doesnt want to break up so now I am 200 miles away feeling numb and dont know what to believe. This is really hard. Am I some kind of idiot- I love him and want to be with him and have made it know that If he is unfaithful to me thats the end.
Help me and make me see sense.
2006-07-16 02:47:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
By the way this isnt a break as in we have split up its a break as we're not seeing each other for a while, or talking on the phone etc- but hes told me I'm allowed to email- Which is really good of him!
2006-07-16 03:00:46 · update #1
yeah he is so innocent!!!!!!!!!
if it was how come he didnt just delete the photos as soon as he got them
sounds really dodgy to me.
i recon he has had feelings 4 her for a while and it just got too much for him and with you being so far away from him his feeling for her have grown
he probably has stayed faithful to you but you are still best off without him
youve been with him ages so it'll take a while for you 2 feel better. the good thing is your starting 2 realise it anyway. and that'll help. make a list of all his bad points aswel as all the nasty things he said to/about you and everytime you miss him look at that list and think why you are better off without him.
goodluck. you will get someone else just dont rush into anything!
2006-07-16 02:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman sends "innocent" photos of herself in her underwear, you know this. Innocent underwear photos do not exist it is impossible.
The strain of being apart has made him find someone else, he hasn't been faithful, the relationship is over or theres a third person involved, it's up to you whether you want to stay with him and him cheat on you or if you feel you are too good to put up with being treated like that and leave him.
2006-07-16 10:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, If you had just recently befriended a guy and you have sent him pictures of yourself in your underware.... Would you be able to classify your intentions as "innocent"? No...
I have to say that the "formal break" is his way of ridding himself of any guilt of messing around with this new girl.... All that and not letting you get to far away... so to speak!
Why the 200 miles? How long until this willn't be a long distance thing any more? Can you move there? Can he move to where you are? Do you want to live w/ him? and most importantly!!!!! At this point.... Whats in it for you?
2006-07-16 09:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful he seems like a sneaky one! 2 years together is some time but its better than 20 years.. And he moved out and is away!!! No I would leave it and find better, I know that love hurts but you would rather hurt over 2 years than 20.. He was obviously up to something and you had no idea what was going on at the time and then he chose to leave...so let it go and find you someone who is faithful and honest!!! He may be trying to fix things with you because things went bad with her!!
Shame on him if he did it once, Shame on you if you take him back cause he will do it again..
He will know he can get away with it if you take him back...Dont answer his calls he will wonder what you are doing and you will make him eat out of your hands and then say I found someone!!! He will know he lost a good thing!
2006-07-16 09:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if his friendship with this girl is so innocent, tell him you want her address or phone number so you can ask her to stop sending him pictures of herself in her underwear. If he won't give you her contact information, it is NOT innocent.
Why SHOULD he break up with you if you allow him to have a girlfriend 200 miles away and you when he's there? He's got it made.
2006-07-16 09:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does rather sound as if he's trying to keep you on the hook while he tests the water with this other girl. Perhaps it is innocent, who knows - one can, after all receive pictures without asking for them - but it doesn't sound very good news from any angle.
I would say he's asked for a proper break, so let him have one and make no secret that you are dating too (you don't have to tell him that it's not too serious). If he can have friends, so can you.
2006-07-16 09:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again, TIME WILL HEAL. He has changed his mind, obviously without much thought. Do you think he respects you? I don't. I advise you to ditch him, he wanted a breakup, but he doesn't now you know about his friend. Doesn't that tell you something? Stop putting him first, look after no1 for a change. Yes, the time has come to be a little selfish, and with that good luck!!!
And dont mind the answer ebfore mine, hes from dubai...what did you expect?
2006-07-16 09:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by englishkeymaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does look like your feelings of being concerned is valid, meaning that it isn't without reason. Who wouldn't feel funky of having their ex getting emails with someone being provocative? The bottom line is that you are broken up and what he does is now is all fair in love and war.
If it truly hurts you and you feel like an idiot, seek closure and be finished with it.
2006-07-16 09:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him for good. i know it's easier said than done, but when another girl is sending pictures of herself in her underwear, it's really the limit. that is so disgusting!
obviously he will tell you that he is not being unfaithful,etc, but then think for yourself....how can you even tolerate something like that?
2006-07-16 10:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by haze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to tell you what to do. but as a guy, I always flirt with other girls, and go out on a date and stuff.. but I always know who I want to marry some day.. and it is always my one true love.. so don't be too over reacting.. let him do what he wants.. what can you do? you're not their for him.. if the time comes that you will be together again.. then he should behave.. if not.. then thats the time to get angry..
2006-07-16 09:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by deadmeat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋