I basically ignored him after, until he left.... I do not know why I did..... I guess shock or something. I never did that before with anyone! (despite my age: 18)
He tried talking to me, but I avoided looking at him, and talking..... I was not trying to be mean or rude, but I still think I made him mad, and he might hate me now.... :'-(
I do not know how I feel about him really, but I do not want to lose my best friend! What should I do?! What should I say?! How do I go about finding out if he hates me? :'-(
2006-07-16 02:06:29 · 15 answers · asked by Alexander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's your best friend, trust me he doesn't hate you now. He's probably wondering what happened?...He may be wondering if he sent out a signal indicating that he wants more then friendship, and you responded but found kissing him so horrible that you stopped and now won't talk to him? Who knows what he's thinking, right now you're only looking at it from your perspective, so first things first.
To save the friendship, back everything up before you start trying to figure out if want to be with him at any other level. Just call him and say "Dude, I am so sorry about the other night. I don't know what happened, for some reason I felt compelled to make out with you. Then when it was really happening, I realized in a split second that you are my best friend and I wasn't sure if I want our relationship to go in that direction because if anything would happen to us as a couple we could never go back to being best friends; I kind of freaked and didn't know what to do; so I did nothing, which was stupid and I'm sorry" and see what happens from there.
The one thing to keep in mind is while you may have initiated the make out session, it's unlikely you were alone in keeping it going for any length of time. So if anything he's probably just as embarassed, freaked out and really wondering what in the h e ll
you guys were about to start as you are. Good luck kiddo, Just be honest, honest honest....
2006-07-16 02:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were being a bit slack to him with how you acted after making out. Imagine how he may feel after how you treated him, more so since an intimate moment just occured.
Talk to him directly and ask him how he feels. Don't be shy about it and since you are best friends and know each other for probably a long time.
I doubt he hates you but i bet he is confused/hurt.
2006-07-16 02:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you didn't mean to be bad with him or you didn't want to avoid him so u make him mad. Explain to him that it was the 1st you did that, and that you were 'shocked' that it happened with him...Tell him you feelings -that you were shocked, you didn't expect his to happen, that u don't really know if u feel sth for him-. Ask him to understand you and maybe tell him that you are confused -if you are!-. He is your friend, so let's hope that he will understand you. If you can't tell him this, then e-mail him or write a letter or tell by the phone
good luck and remember that honesty is the best thing in every friendship-relationship!
2006-07-16 02:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about if you have feeling for this people but if you both kissed there maybe something there, then talk to him tell him that you are sorry that you didn't talk to him after, you was shock that you have kissed and that you are worried that you may lose your best friend!!!
he maybe thinking the some thing or worried that he may have done something wrong talk to him Hun
hope it works out the way you both want it too
2006-07-16 05:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you were abit embarrassed after making out and because he's your best friend you don't know whether you or him want to maybe start dating .
the question is do you want to start dating or remain good friends and maybe you acted all weird because you don't know what he wants and you are worried incase its different to want you want.
Just ring him and explain that the making out threw you a bit and just say sorry you kinda ignored him if he's your best he will understand.
good luck and seriously don't worry it will be ok
2006-07-16 02:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's trying to talk to you, he doesn't hate you. You are sending mixed signals. Get some private time with him and tell him how embarassed your are about the incident. Maybe, deep in side, you want to be more than "friends" with him. Tell him what's going on. And learn about "boundaries"...you crossed the line. Just have a talk and that should do it. I have found guys who want to be your "friend" really wan to be your boyfriend. So, be a woman and do what you have to do.
2006-07-16 02:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly an to your question, be straight forward with him when you get up enough nerve to talk to him don't beat around the bush about it and it takes time .. don't rush him into anything let him come to you and well your giving him time and space you have time to think if he's what you really want. Friendship or Soul Mate ..
2006-07-16 02:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need tot alk to him about what happend, d be pretty pissed and embarassed if i made out with my best friend and than she ignored me the rest fo the night, id feel liek crap, and probably woudl do the same things hes doing, talk to him tell him yoru sorry and dont know hy you did it, make out with him again and move on with yondship and see what it turns into
im sorry my computer cant type as fast as i can, i thik its still waking up
2006-07-16 02:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what?i really do not know how to advise you.are u girl or guy?i have been knowing a guy for half year.in this half year,he asked me to do this and that for him.until one time i get pissed up and said he just using me for his own sake.i really feel such way.he always slow response to my sms and thats make me really angry.i really like him alot.but he got girl friend.so,i just can maintain it as friendship.on the time i scolds him back,he told me he very angry with me too.he tried to be nice to me all whiles but i keep misunderstand him and makes him feel like a jerk.he get angry and till i feel so sad and i hope for his forgiveness.at last he forgives me.i do not know how far is his sincerity.i really do not know.but now i am really sure he just using me.he told me to stop contact him till he get back to me.well,i cannot blame him as he got girl friend.but why not he just be sincere and just ask me stop sms him?i will... so i think you do not have to do anything as you do not even know what he think actually.some people really know how to pretend.he said he will treat me eat but he did not.i do not greedy for the meal.but i just will wait and see .but u know what?he promise to find me on my last day in office.but he didnt.he told me he oversleep.i feel really sad and cried on that day.but i forgives him.but now what i get?i does not ask you do not believes him.but i think you should just let it be.let him find you.if he did not just forget him.he not worth it. girl,lets be strong.
2006-07-16 02:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-25 19:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋