i started dating this guy in november and we ere really in love he was my first real bf and everything kiss ect.... else. we had problems his ex. gf was my friend and she tried rumors and lies to break us up it made me upset and him. even said i as pregnant wich actually happened in jan. after we decided to wait to have baby too late though. things got really bad from here i tried telling my mom she flipped so did my dad i lied to cover and told them doctor said no.my parents banned me from seeing him so we snuck around causing more problems.he broke up with me in feb. over work tried hooking up with another girl that fell through. we started talking in may got back together and brokeup in late april cause mom said so grounded bad grades. i miscarried may 18 dont know why?he started seeing another girl during this time and i told him june 21 i had miscarriage. he now seems to want to be friends?but says he wont call me cause parents hate him?but ants to see me?
2006-07-16 01:55:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
invited me to visit him?i afraid i will relive what i went through if i do make matters worse we will see each other at school same college. and seeing him will bring up all my emotions for him ect.
2006-07-16 01:58:24 · update #1
should i try to be friends ???i still am in love with him??even though my grades crashed because of this so i have to take online course to graduate in august.
2006-07-16 02:01:08 · update #2
why does he want to see me again??
2006-07-16 02:03:37 · update #3
There's more men in life, you'd can find a better one in the world than him. But if you really want to be his friend (like those drama girls about b/f )then meet him in a cafe' or restraunt, somewhere where you can chat stuff through and tell him how you feel,even if it take 5 mins.
2006-07-16 01:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by imreallymean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I don't mean to be mean but take an english class. Wow that was bad.
2. Keep your pants on or learn to use protection. Your a kid you should not be having kids. Your future depends on the work you do in school. Your whole life to some degree hinges on that and leaning how to work. Don't screw it up over simple momentary pleasure.
3. Lean to act responsibly. Of course your parents hate him. I would too. Well maybe hate is too strong of a word but he would not be welcome in my house. Think about it from their point of view for a minute. Got their daughter pregnant and then left. I respect the fact that you were considering keeping the child but think of the monitary expense this would have caused not just for you but for your parents. You want them to treat you and your bf with more respect then both of you need to FIRST learn to act responibly. Respect may first be given but then once lost it has to be earned to regain.
But seriously, your schooling may be a pain and it may be hard but it is your ticket to a good life, meeting the right people, getting the best job, making the most money and so on. It's not a gaurantee but you can't get there without it.
2006-07-16 02:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~~guys like that want one thing... a place to relieve their sexual frustrations... a guy that is not willing to wait until there is a commitment of marriage don't really love you. he just is in it for the sex.... if he loves you he will hang around without the sex. there are so many diseases out there, and young people are being taught to just use a condom... a condom will not protect your heart... and also they are not 100% effective in preventing diseases or pregnancy... they all have the potential to break, leak and fall off, they all have microscopic holes in them that the HPV and HIV virus can pass through.. (this is why they are only advertised as safer sex and not safe sex) get a good education... you may need it for a good job. even if you get married, and hubby has a great job, God forbid he dies prematurely and there you are with two kids and one on the way... you would have your education to fall back on... if you study hard and work at it now. it will be a lot harder to go back to school when you have 2 or 3 kids, and pay for school and the things your children need... get the education first... don't let mr. wonderful talk you out of your education... if he loves you he would support you in your educational efforts.~~
2006-07-16 03:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser. He broke up with you shortly after you found out you were pregnant and now wants to be with you after you miscarry? I agree with your parents. Stay away from him and focus on your schoolwork. Finish school and then worry about finding a DECENT man.
You say you love him? He obviously doesn't love you if he would treat you this way. Everyone here can see that he doesn't care at all for you. Why would you let someone treat you like this and want to take him back. Don't try to be friends with him. Avoid him like the plague.
2006-07-16 02:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by herdoula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the most part I think I understand whats going on. But for future questions maybe some periods and comma placement wouldn't hurt. Men are a lot different than woman. Parents are a lot different than children. If they flipped out thinking you were too young, don't hate them...they love you and only want whats best for you. Judging by your writing I will assume you are fairly young.
As for the boy, you're better off without.
After all he's done to you why would you want to jeopardize the relationship with your parents to be friends with him? I understand he was your first love or whatever but trust me kiddo...you are better off without him.
2006-07-16 02:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by poopypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are young am i right? If you are still in school and not married you should not be having kids in the first place.. All in Gods timing things will happen for you and he will bring you that right man of God one who wont take yoru virginity away.. Focus on your one true Love JESUS CHRIST and if you dont have jesus christ in your life GET HIM he will help you whenever you are in need and most of all he will bring you that ULTIMATE love .. All you need to do to get Jesus in your life is Repent of these sins change your ways and say LOrd I need you please forgive me and come into my life and take control
That would be my suggestion that and not to sleep around before your married do you know how many illness are out there HIV and other dieses . Maybe God did this for a reason in your life look at it as a blessing
Shannon
2006-07-16 03:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i dont think it was right of you to date your friend's ex and the fact that this guy dated you knowing that you were his ex's friend and was also to quick to move to the next girl does not make him sound like his worth your grades, your grades are very important right now they will offer you a lot in future, good luck.
2006-07-16 02:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by whats my name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say drop him! He only wants you when you are not a threat to his freedom, i.e. not pregnant. You have to learn to respect your parents' decisions, they have lots more experince than you. Go to college, get a degree, and find a GOOD man!
2006-07-16 02:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a clue that should tell you what kinda person he is. Tell him to get lost.
2006-07-16 02:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋