What do I do with my Marine?

Question

When we are alone my husband loves me and understands me. When he is gone and on the phone or internet he is cold and mean. I feel like he is mean and he doesn't care about my feelings. He thinks I am playing games and wants to fight. But he is cold and he hurts me. He doesn't understand that all I want is an apology. He just fights it out until I give up.

Answer 1

Maybe he misses you and it is a way for him to cope with being away from you.

Answer 2

I think that when gone and he gets upset because the war and the dirty job he has clean up for bush... umm when he see you at home and he felt more safe and stuff now I think he is not thinking straight. Everything right now he mad at you and his family and everyone even me too. (I don't know him and he don't know me) just ask him when he be back and try to talk about this and try to solve if not then go couling and if not then i guess you have to get in divorce becaue he might never change. I know because my dad is Marine and he show no love, caringnothing to his family even to me too... I do missed my dad very much and never get a chance to telling that I love you dad.but he died Feb. 2006 and he told my uncle that your dad want me to tell you that it not your fault and you didn't do anything, I am so sorry for not being a great father, and I do love you alot and proud of you that you made your own good family. I deserved this and he died 30 mins later until i never get a chance to tell him that I do forgive him.

So i am 35 years old and Once you are Marine always be like that.

I do hope this work out between both of you..

Answer 3

Amanda, he is a Marine, built and schooled to be tough and emotionless. You have to understand he is a killing machine and supposed to be unemotional. He was trained by the US to be a KILLER, and his emotions are supposed to be blocked. He does change when he comes home to you it sounds though. That is good he has adjusted. You are lucky there, I have heard of some guys who are the same home or in action. He is coping the best he can. Realize if you were in his position you would want to hide and not share your emotions as to what you were seeing.

Answer 4

if he is only doing it when you are not together then he is trying to impress his azzhole marine jerk buddies. they all do it to make themselves look manly to each other. if he is nice to you in person that is the kind of guy that he really is.he needs to show his wife more respect.try not talking to him when he is away, or if he starts being cold hang up or stop chatting.he will get the message that you shouldn't talk to people like that especailly your wife,no matter who is listening.tell him to change ,or you will walk out. and you really should ,cause you deserve better hope this helps.

Answer 5

Stay in counseling and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. It's very hard to be married to a military man who has been degraded and molded in the service by drill sargeants. I'm dealing with that myself.

Answer 6

He's probably that way because of the stress he's under. Also it may be cuz he worried you won't be faithful in his absense. Watever the reason, don't get angry with him long as he ok when he gets home. And try to remain faithful to him.

Answer 7

i used to go through the same thing with my army man. he told me that he missed me so much that it was his way of dealing with it. he would turn cold against me, that way it didnt hurt to be away from me. it hurts, i know, and i dont know how to tell you to deal with it, but i just got the mindset that i knew what he was doing and i let it be ok.

Answer 8

If you are married to a military man then you have access to counselling...take it.

Answer 9

what is yr name? i beleive you are my wife.