my friend who is of 16 yrs loves aguy of 30 yrs ad that guy also loves her trully is it right for her to continue?
2006-07-16 00:41:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DANGER DANGER DANGER!!!
This is wrong...what could a 30 year old MAN possibly have in common (or be interested in, other than sex) with a 16 year old GIRL. HELP her, tell her folks if you have to; even if it costs the friendship.
I'm 35 yrs old myself. Even women in their early 20's look like little girls to me now. If I was her dad I'd steer this guy so far clear of her, he'd be in Istanbul by now.
Young girls are flattered by the attention of an older man...she does not have enough life experience and wisdom to try to match wits and tactics with a 30 year old pedophile.
If he was 40 and she was 26 it might be different; but, she is still a girl (experience wise) and this guy is a predator. Oh I'm sure he SAYS he loves her and is all friendly and acts interested in what she likes...but he's out for one thing. I know his type..I saw them in high school the Navy, and many other places.
Statuatory rape is a CRIME for a reason. This innocent young gal is being lied to by a perp.
If his intentions were truly honorable and wanted her for a wife or even just a friend...he would wait until she was of age and would ONLY see her in the presence of HER parents until she is of age.
If you love your friend, YOU MUST get her parents involved in this before she makes a big mistake or is the latest newspaper headline. I can not warn you enough..this is the type of guy that says stuff like..."She said no but she really meant yes.." after he rapes her and I don't even mean statutory hear. Worse yet they are imposing enough that they'll have the girl convinced that he'll kill her parents if she says anything.
2006-07-16 01:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why love at 16 is any less right than love at 18, 25 or 30. Is the man of 30 taking advantage? Time will tell. If he follows through with a commitment, such as formal engagement and marriage, it could prove to be right, not wrong.
On the other hand, nothing wrong with a 16-yr old playing the field in many cultures and falling in and out of love until she has acquired the judgement and experience and meets the right guy.
2006-07-16 08:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by hellbent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely agree with Ken Sisk. This is a man we r talking about and not a teen guy who is fooling around.. He could be her father in someway. A man of 30 cannot possibly have things in common with a 16 year old girl and fall in love with her.. He is after only one thing but just not to be absolute if once in a million he did fall in love with your friend then he should wait until she is at least 18! What does he say to her? That he really loves her and that people just get him wrong and that he wouldnt hurt her and all? Well i think your friend is really too young to know what real love is and especially when she is involved with a 30 year old man. He knows a lot more things and is experienced and absilutely knows how to "approach" an innocent girl. If she was older but they still had this age diference then it wouldnt be that bad because she would be old enough to know what love is and what she wants from life.. Now even if she thinks she is mature and all she is just not.. She is still young and doesnt have any experience in order to decide what is best for her .. If you really care for her you should talk to her and make her stop having a relationship with this man. If he likes her or anything then he should just wait which i really doubt.. If ur friend doesnt want to stop after u talk to her then i think u should have her parents involved because this is serious.. (as Ken Sisk said) She may think she is inlove with him and all but she is just too young to make up her mind for such a serious matter.. Talk to her and explain the dangers of such a relationship.. Plus if she stays with him not only she will be having sex with him without her will but as older men and mature ones do he will keep her away from her friends, her family and everything she loves doing..
2006-07-16 09:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, as long as he's not pushing her into anything she doesnt want to do, i was in love at 14, with a guy who was 18, now 3 years later, we're engaged, and our wedding is next may, so its probably fine. (",)
2006-07-16 07:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good thing..He knows what he is doing is wrong, but he is just a nasty ol horn dog intrested in one thing. One day he will leave your friend for some new young thing. It is not good for her to continue..he belongs in jail....
2006-07-16 07:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY BUT IT WON'T LAST. THE SEX DRIVE OF A YOUNG LADY IS FAR STRONGER THEN THAT OF A MAN OF 30 HE WILL NEVER KEEP HER HAPPY.
AY FIRST HE WILL BUT WILL SOON WEAR OUT AND SHE WILL STILL WANT IT
2006-07-16 08:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one but i'd say no because your friend is to young to know understand what real love is
2006-07-16 07:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by brian/bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OFCOURSE its right if they love each other no-one can stop them . i think they should marry ..
2006-07-16 07:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋