2006-07-16 00:40:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I appreciate turning to an answer forum for help, however after such an ordeal, I suggest talking to a human being. Doctor, minister a close friend. I love yahoo and the answers but I dont think I would be here the next day if I were in your shoes. To answer your question:
You need to sit down and reclaim your self. Notice your self is two words. Self is the central part of you in life. Your world has been shattered and without even knowing the reasons that led up to it, you emotionally cannot cope right now. Sit alone with a drink of choice, coffee tea etc, stay away from alcohol it is a depressant. Write down what your mind thinks at any given time. You are probably angry at life for taking your son, write these things down and face them as you deem fit. Keeping them inside you will just boil things over and emotionally scar you.
Notice I did not say "I know how you feel", there is no way anyone could who has not gone thru it.
Are you religious? Take the matter to the Cross and leave it there. I do that a lot.
2006-07-16 00:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by orion_1812@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. When my Dad passed away a few years ago I did what was normal. I cried, yelled, got mad, and wanted to give up on life. But I read this book on grieving and it had some good thoughts in it, for me.
You did not say how old your son was. One of the things in the book said find something that (your son) liked, maybe a hobby, or a cause, a passion, or something he did for work, if old enough, and do something similar to that and do it in his name.
Example. My Dad was a contractor. What could I do then. Well, donate time to Habitat for Humanity. In a way I work along side my Dad and in my heart keep his memory here, still.
Besides that. Time. Allow yourself your moments to cry, reminise, be happy, yell, be mad. Whatever your feeling is,is what your suppossed to feel to move on. Just remember to move on. Don't expect there not to be those days when you want to give up. They will come. But just keep moving, kind of like going on a car trip. You have a destination, and you admire all the little towns in between, you might even stop for a minute or two but then you get back in your car and you keep driving till you get to your destination. I wish you much happiness and a safe and wonderful journey to "what do I do next."
2006-07-16 11:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirlup64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have an 11 year old and couldn't imagine burying him.
I don't know what to tell you. I would have to advise to let yourself grieve but get along with your life as well. Even though you miss you child greatly you are still alive, as unfair as that sounds (children are supposed to outlive their parents). Go back to your normal routine, go to lunch with your friends, go to work, do the laundry and most importantly CRY IF YOU NEED TO! If you work I am sure that your employer will understand if you need to run outside or to the bathroom for some alone time in this trying time. Make sure you keep your friends and family around you, they aren't feeling it as hard as you are, but they are feeling the loss and to know that there is someone else who is grieving is good for all of you!
Again, I am so sorry for your loss, keep you head up, your son would have wanted it that way!! He would want you to keep going.
2006-07-16 07:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad... I'm so sorry...
Well it's normal to grieve... You should... That's the only way for you to heal. Then, maybe you could think of something that your son would want you to do to your life. Just remember, everything happens for a reason, and that reason will not be found by dwelling on your past. You have to continue your travel.
2006-07-16 07:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by athame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. There is not much advice I can give you in this situation other than to go and talk to a grievance counselor if you can. Remember how precious and short life really is for all of us and that you have to go on. It's not going to be easy for you for a bit but try to remember that all of our loved ones who pass would want us to use our own time left to the fullest.
2006-07-16 07:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for the lost
Deep condolence from my side
its god wish
try 2 come out of it and start with beginning
2006-07-16 07:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything except to pray for his soul to rest in peace.
He overtook you in the Que to an unknown destination.
Everybody is mortal on this planet.
Please accept my condolences.
2006-07-16 07:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, may his soul rest in peace!
U can start small by just hanging out with some of ur freinds, those that are very close to, those that knows your situation and can help bring you back in to normal life again.
Sorry once again!
2006-07-16 07:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by koolmabash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God would blessing u to relief the grief...life never stop just think of the others in ur family.
2006-07-16 07:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by active1144 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandable. Now is the time for grieving. Sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you.
2006-07-16 07:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋