2006-07-16 00:26:10 · 11 answers · asked by LuVmyBB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remember always that you love this person and promised to do so always...speak the truth in love. Address your grievances; but, always cuddle up at the end of the day when you go to sleep.
Also remembering all the good things they have done helps control the anger...provided there are some
2006-07-16 00:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fundamental rule would be to decide before hand that this is going to be an intelligent-debate or exchange of views and not a personal attack or argument.
Everytime you lose sight of this fact or if the fight starts getting out of control and agitating, the spouse on the receiving end can take a time-out!! Come back to the fighting table with a renewed vigour in a few mins. But it wise to end it with some rational conclusion rather than keep the issue soaking for for a larger fight to erupt later.....
2006-07-16 07:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spouses? Fighting? Controling Anger? Yeah, right. I have too many broken things to believe that spouses can fight with controlled anger.
2006-07-16 07:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as intelligent fighting when you are right in the middle of intense emotion. The best thing to do is walk away and talk about the issue again when the anger subsides and both have cleared their minds.
2006-07-16 08:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by mr8dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until both of you learn how to work together to "fight fair", you may need a counselor to serve as "professional referee." While losing your temper is "not OK", there are also anger making words and actions that are equally "not OK" and a pro can help you to recognize these and work out your differences without them.
If you both have a sincere desire to negotiate in good faith and work out differences, then you can and will do it. Your love is going to be so much stronger.
2006-07-16 07:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as an intelligent fight. Dr. Phil says to fight fair and discuss the event that has pissed you off. Unfortunately, when one gets pissed and emotional it all goes to pot.
2006-07-16 10:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a safe room in your house. The rule in that room is no yelling or screaming. Be calm and talk intelligently.
2006-07-16 07:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by scrambledmolecues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take things so personally. Detatch yourself from the situation and pretend like you are an outsider looking in. That helps me not to get so sensitive.
2006-07-16 07:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one of them stops reacting, there will be no fight.
Intelligence and anger does not match.
Anger kills - intelligence stops.
2006-07-16 07:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight or argue? there is a lot of difference in these 2 words.
2006-07-16 07:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋