Hey everyone. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has answered my questions:) You all have been great but I have another one.
I finally found this guy that I really like. I mean, hes different:) I like him and he says he feel sthe same way towards me. I just had this kinda maybe its a weird paranoid idea but what if someone actually tries to come in and kinda steal him away form me?-lol i know..stupid but its happened before. Maybe if that does happen, and he is easily persuaded by the other person, maybe he wasnt into me as I thought ..or im not sure...but any suggestions or ideas...anything?
lol
sorry for my paranoid-ness...
ttyl.
2006-07-15 21:38:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Whether gay or straight, no one possesses the other person in a relationship. It's based on mutual trust and commitment. If these are present, there is no reason for fear. If either of these are lost by either person, then that person will most likely also be lost. There are no guarantees in any relationship. If you're not sure you can trust this person has a full commitment to you, then don't be so quick to make a commitment yourself. In time, you should know one way or the other.
2006-07-15 21:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dale P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are not in a commited relationship yet then he may be dating more then one person, it's normal to do so because you are getting to know people. When you two have been out on many dates and things start to become different you should talk to him about only being commited to you and you him. If he still wants to play the field then yeah "he's just not that into you" and it's not your fault and should move on. If he cheats in a commited relationship then dump him and move on. If he is good to you and you two are having a good relationship then enjoy it. It's ok to think of such things but don't make yourself paranoid over it.
2006-07-16 11:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let this turn into insane jealousy. Maybe you are feeling as though you don't deserve this, but that's not right either. Make sure he knows how you feel and then act on those feelings. Make him feel special wihtout smother him, nurture the relationship at every step, and expect the best to happen.
Sometimes things happen to people that we cannot predict or control. So don't ever make another person your whole reason for living. But love him and cherish him and hope that if he were your whole reason, you'd be completely fulfilled.
2006-07-16 08:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person you connect with is THAT FICKLE to be "Stolen" by someone else. Then you are better off without him. (You don't need the added worries of him sleeping around and introducing possible STD's in your future.)
You will know if you have a stable relationship. Just take time and "Breath it all in" before you start turning into "Chicken Little".
2006-07-16 04:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by dustytymes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can steal away someone, unless that person is wanting to be stolen! Always remember that! And thank you for your appreciation of our answers!
P.S.
You are not being (paranoid), you are just
scared of losing someone you care about!
2006-07-16 04:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to relax, be yourself, and enjoy the moment. If you worry about silliness like this, the moment will be ruined, and thoughts become self-fulfilling prophesies. Put your mind to better use and think of constructive things.
2006-07-16 11:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with him,so he can tell you how much he cares for you and loves you. That would put your fears to rest after he tells you that you are a great guy and the only one for him
2006-07-16 12:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start becoming jealous and possesive...you'll scare him away like that! Be confident and don't let the negative stuff poison your thinking...once that happens it might as well be over anyway.
2006-07-16 07:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have such doubts, go way slow and do not get sexual til you are more sure. Sex only confuses the issues.
2006-07-16 04:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone can come and steal him away, you don't want him anyway. :) Simple as that.
2006-07-16 04:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by UniqueIsWhoSheIs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋