We've been together for more than two years. When my hubby visits their place they usually come up with reasons not to let him go home to me as scheduled. They send me nasty text messages and even call me names. Despite this I didn't talk bad back at them or be nasty with them. I gave them respect bec I truly love my husband. But most of the time I feel hurt and bad over the things they are doing and what they are telling me. BTW, my hubby had a previous relationship with another woman - they had 2 offspring from this short relationship but they didn't get married at all. My in laws lives near this other woman. The only communication my husband have with this previous relationship is related always to the children. Support and visitations. Please help me - I am thinking of giving up because of the hurt they are causing me.
2006-07-15 21:27:31 · 6 answers · asked by diosa_jdpv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont let his family ruin your love life whats the difference in him having kids already an you already having kids i dont think it should really matter as long as yall love each other and love each others children i bet that his parents just think your using him for money for you kid or something of that matter idk
2006-07-15 21:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are strong and able to maintain your status in or away from your in-law. Calling your names or nasty texting shouldnt hurt you at all if you know where is the delete button.
Whatever past issue your husband had, give your support to him and not others. Did you go along when your husband see his two off spring? Go along and tell yourself that you support your husband
Remember always, you married to this man who you will spend the rest of your happy life. Why give up your husband if he is not the one who hurts you?
2006-07-16 04:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to f off! Seriously, stand up for yourself and your child. Have a nice long chat with them and let them know exactly how you feel. Then make sure your husband understands the severity of the situation. If he makes excuses for their behavior or refuses to back you up, then I would honestly end the marriage. I know that sounds really harsh, but knowing that he isn't supporting you in this will only create alot of animosity. His family seems like a bunch of inconsiderate, judgemental asses! You deserve better!
2006-07-16 04:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by outlawsister1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!!!! Your love is not worth giving up because of his family. Have you talked to your husband and showed him the messages. He could probably talk with his family about what they are doing. It sounds like they are being double standard. That it's ok that he has kids with another woman but because you have one with another man your the devil. They are crazy. I don't know for sure that talking to your husband will make things better or worse, but it's worth a shot. I know how you feel, my ex-husband is native american and I am white. We have 2 sons together...and because my genes are stronger than his they are pretty light. His family won't have anything to do with them. They insist that I cheated on him twice. I was with him for 5 years, and all they did the whole time was tear me down and bad mouth me and my kids. One day I just gave up and left. I didn't even try talking to him because I was afraid that he would choose them over me. And now I totally hate myself. I just want to curl up and die. I loved my husband soooooooo much and I gave into his family and gave them what they wanted. For me to be gone. My children are hurt because I hurt them by taking them away from their daddy. If you trully love your husband try, and try some more to make things work. Please don't leave him for the sake of his family. It's not worth it. Love is more important and stronger than hate, (if you let it). Best Wishes** and GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-16 04:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~p♥kes~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not, I repeat, do not let these people ruin your marriage! That is what they want to do. As long as you and your husband do not have any problems with you having a child from your previous relationship, do not let it come between the two of you. Does he agree with them on their views of you?? Obviously not because he chose to marry you. :) If things are great between you and your husband, I say let them be miserable and you are doing the right thing by continuing to be kind to them. My grandma always said "kill 'em with kindness" :) Best of luck to you!!
2006-07-16 04:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by UniqueIsWhoSheIs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shuold not give a damn and treat them the way they treat you or just don't go around them
2006-07-16 04:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by chevy*gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋