My girlfriend and I were at m,y brother's home hanging out with her ex-boyfriend, and my brother's girlfriend. We were all having a good time, or so I believed. My girlfriend and my brother(who is in a band) were jamming on the drums and P.A. while the rest of us sat on the porch smoking cigarretes. Whenever we were driving back home on the highway, she started accusing me of trying to get with my brother's girlfriend. Keep in mind since the first time we slept together a year ago my girlfriend has been with over 10 different guys while I have only been with her.She then procceded to punch me in the face as I drove in the dark on the highway so I felt forced to try to defend myself. Now I looked in the mirror and I am bleeding from my nose, my eye, and the side of my face. Similar situations have happened before and I do not know what to do. I don't feel as if I did anything wrong to her.
2006-07-15 21:13:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
okay so I hit her too and she didn't sleep with 10 people.I am just really pissed, but I care about her. help...
2006-07-15 22:02:05 · update #1
Phone the police. It's an assault no matter who is doing the hitting on you, if it was unprovoked and was initiated by them.
The more you let people get away with that kind of behavior, the more it will occur.
We HAVE to let people know it's simply not okay and not acceptable, and there are legal punishments for it.
And break up. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. If it happened once, shame on her. If it happens again, shame on you.
2006-07-15 21:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would like to applaud you for not hitting her back. She obviously doesn't realize she managed to land a good guy. Some woman take advantage of the puplic opinion of abuse. If you would have hit back she would have called the cops and chances are you would have spend the night in jail. She is a smart one , she knows how to play you, more than likely she would play the system, too. So yes! she is abusive and now it is up to you to take control. She doesn't has any. If you're really asking on what to do I would say leave. Unless you want to watch her down the line abusing your children. It's not going to change unless she will work out her control issues.And that is not something you can help her with.
2006-07-15 21:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by sabina-2004@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!! If you can't find the way today, file a complaint against her - don't wait. Make them take pics of your bruises, cuts, etc. If she hits you when you are breaking up or leaving - call the cops, at least there will already be a complaint on file - you may need a restraining order. But you really MUST get out - she sounds nuts. Just 'cuz you are a guy, things can go terribly wrong and you may be the one accused - dude - CYA. You have been through enough already!!
2006-07-15 21:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Scarface0454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well-thats quite a situation.
First off i would end the relationship-if she can freely "punch" you in the face, and not care of the consequences, then she has problems.it is all about control-just like when a man "punches" a woman, its all about control.
second-are you crazy? in a world full of STD'S and unwanted pregnancys, why would you stay with someone that continually cheats on you? she has you under control there too-you have accepted the fact of cheating it seems-the next thing is abuse-whats next?
life is too short to be under anyones thumb-stand tall young man !!
you can find someone that will treat you with respect, and like you for who you are.
domestic abuse is a serious issue-people think that its all the "man" doing the abuse-but clearly we have an example of a female "going off'.
again the laws should be re-vamped-there are just as many female"controler's" out there as men-the only difference, is that alot of men are embarrased, or so confused -or lacking self esteem-(which is what an abuser wants" ) they do not report it.
find someone else that you can laugh with and enjoy life-there are plenty of careing people out there.
good luck kiddo !!
2006-07-15 21:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by gemini~~~marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has cheated on you with 10 different guys and now is punching you around the place. Do you really need to be told to dump her. If you don't, there's no-one to blame but yourself in the future if she does more things to you. Have some self respect.She's a psycho.
2006-07-15 21:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Irish_bi_female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to dump her and quick, Havent u heard any of the horror stories from domestic violence victims? Like acid in ur face things like that, it could spiral out of control quickly and she obviously has no respect for u anyway or she wouldnt have cheated. It will be better for both of u if u part ways!
2006-07-15 21:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I know!!!!
You should drive her out somewhere "special" that is really really far away. When you get there, just park and get half-out of the car and once she closes her door LOCK THEM! Get back in the car. Lock your door once you're in. Roll down the window a teeny tiny bit and tell her its over. Call her bad words. Then DRIVE!!!!!! Get out of there leaving her @$$ to walk home!!! hahahaha After that never take her calls or talk to her etc ever again.
Basically end it but make it count.
2006-07-15 21:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by BoredomStrikes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence has no place in a domestic relationship. Pray and
ask God's direction for your life, and dump your girlfriend
immediately. Just because she gives you sex is not a good
reason to stay with her.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
2006-07-15 21:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out, no one has the right to hit you. Being a girl doesn't make it okay. I use to hit my husband and everyone thought because of our fights that he hurt me, but it was quite the opposite, the only thing that stopped me was God. and i mean that in all seriousness. but thefact is my husband should have left me, or had me arressted. i still live with the pain of how i did him. but not everyone has the ability to change. do you ever talk about what she does?
2006-07-15 21:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you need to protect yourself AIDS is no joke 10 different guys; can u say testing please. don't stay with her that's not love and it d*@$ sure ain't showing respect, don't hit her back that is your normal reaction but don't hit her that makes you no better then her, you are a good man for asking for advice now use it and protect yourself; no one is a punching bag and violence only get violence, I hope you take care of yourself and get away from her, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong but i wasn't there
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-07-15 21:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋