theres this guy at school who sexually harassed me and i reported him and now my friends hate me because they liked him as a friend and now he is expelled from school and now only 3/12 friends are talking?? i need advice quickly!!!
2006-07-15 21:07:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well i was at a party with some friends and this guy who i hang out with was having a little too much fun (if u kno wat i mean) and than i reported him to the cops and than they told the school and now he is expelled and all of my friends (except some nice 3 friends who said i did the right thing) hate me and i don't kno what to do!!!
2006-07-15 21:21:00 · update #1
Well, my hats off to you my dear for standing up for yourself and not allowing anyone to ruin your dignity. Your action may not be popular to your "friends", but for as long as you're on the right side, you don't have anything to worry about. For all you know, those 9 people who are not talking to you don't deserve to be called your 'friends" afterall...
You did the right thing... not only for yourself but for the other girls that this guy might have harassed. What you did should serve as a lesson to guys who plan to go beyond the limitations with girls... you even saved other girls who are would-be victims.
You're a good example! I am sure that when all these things come to pass, you'll find real friends who would understand.. who would stay by your side no matter what.
2006-07-16 19:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've noticed that teenagers/kids do stuff like that but it doesn't make it right. Any form of sexual harassment should not be tolerated. They will understand either when it happens to them or they get older. If they will hate you for doing the right thing then they aren't the type of people that you want to be around anyways, especially since they like a guy that would sexually harass someone. Good luck.
2006-07-15 21:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to do the right thing. School atmosphere is especially difficult. Just know in your heart that you stood up for your morals, and that will always keep you a notch above the rest. It happens all the time. You are not alone. I would rather loose all my friends than loose my morals. In fact I have. When my first wife left,,, she left me with 3 children. All our friends took her out drinking, that is why she left, to party all the time, and they all started hating me. NOW, they all see what went on, and I still have the children. I was right, and would not leave no matter how bad it got. Always stand up for yourself. If you are in the right.
2006-07-15 21:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did the right thing and your friends hate you for it you have to ask yourself if those friends of yours are Worth having. Sure you've had great times but if their going to hold you back their not your real friends. Real friends stick by you and support you through hard times and good they don't turn their backs on you at the drop of a hat back stab you or deny you your freedom to make your own choices. If you think you did the right thing and it didn't do harm to others that's all that matters. Be yourself, make your own decisions for its no fun following the leader and living to whatever others will except.
2006-07-15 21:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by tarasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you reported your friends favourite guy definitely they will hate you, it is normal. At the same time what you have done is right, You dont have to worry about what you have done. Friends will come back to you after sometime once they understand you or when they face same thing, they will know how bad it is... be brave! So far as you have not done a bad thing, you dont have to worry...
2006-07-15 21:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jaffs G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need them! They let you know what kind of friends they were when they didn't want you to the right thing. In a couple of years you won't even know these people because you'll be out of there. Don't worry about, you did what you had to do!
2006-07-15 21:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by starrdurden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, but i think later on she will realized that ur right and nothing is wrong with u ....because real friends tells frankly whats right and wrong..wrong will never be right!!! thats the real friend....
Its ur right to report the guy because he sexually harrased you, if u did not do the thing maybe he will do it to the other ladies...dont worry, its not ur fault!be proud u do the right thing...
Good luck to you..
2006-07-15 21:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by belle26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing! life is tough and being in high school is the worst, you land up changing your friends more than what you would you underwear! Good luck... just be who you are and have no regrets!
2006-07-15 21:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you feel is the right thing to do, their opinion does not matter at this time. It is obvious your safety is important to you, for your friends that dont care about it, then they are not your REAL friends. REAL friends will stick to you through thick and thin.
I would say they are good ridance.
2006-07-15 21:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing don't worry about others who don't understand what you were going through.
2006-07-15 21:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋