I abhor gay sex, but I'm obsessed with observing handsome men. What's wrong with me?

Answer 1

Paradox, if you're telling yourself you shouldn't be thinking something, it's disgusting, stop thinking about it, don't think about it, all you're doing is focusing more of your attention and energy on the very thing you're trying to avoid. To break out of that, you have to give yourself permission to think about without making a big deal out of it.

So you're looking at handsome men, so what? If people didn't like to look at handsome guys, a lot of photographers would be out of business.

Answer 2

Hi. The typical answer will probably be that you're really gay, but that isn't necessarily the case. There may be some tendency there, but it doesn't have to be acted upon, and it may just be an indicator of something else. Besides there is a LOT of imagery being promulgated through movies and other media to cause confusion, and there are too many cultural messages that confuse things too. I agree with the idea of dwelling on other things. The more bent out of shape we get about something, the more we obsess about it, the more we are ruled by it. Do you like girls? Are there certain qualities about well-built or handsome men that you wish you had: confidence, strength, the ability to get attention, etc.? For sure, don't do things against yourself, things that you "abhor". DO the things that make better sense to you and bring you true happiness. Blessings. Buttercup

Answer 3

Many people have some form of fetish or an antifetish which can cause some kind of confusion. I think perhaps your hatred of gays and gay sex conflicts with your natural desire to seek out beauty in man. Perhaps you should work on eliminating the hatred by understanding where it comes from. It is the fear of something different.

Answer 4

The media teaches us to value physical beauty -- both male and female -- above all else.

Therefore, it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, when you see someone beautiful, you look and you admire.

It really doesn't reflect on your sexuality at all. It reflects on your degree of exposure to the media.

I think a lot of straight people have been confused by this, same as you, and have come to the mistaken conclusion that they must be gay or bi. (In contrast to those people who are actually gay and born that way.)

Answer 5

You have not come out of the closet yet.
You are in denial.
Denial is not a river in Egypt.

Or you may have a propensity for beauty if you also obsessively observe anything of beauty with a passion.

Probably lts the former, not the later.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you !

Is there any law that states you are not allowed to say some one is handsome?

Are you not allowed to look at any object whether it is human or not and say you like that?

Obviously you are secure enough in your manhood and that allows you to appreciate another person as being handsome.

It has nothing at all to do with sexuality.

Answer 7

U are hoping to be like one of those handsome men. Ask yourself do u like girl as a sex partner , then u really know your sexual orientation.

Answer 8

I'm as straight as you get, I despise homosexuality. I do the same thing, I just find it interesting to look at people. It's not wrong. If someone is good looking, they are good looking. It's pleasing to the eye.

Answer 9

dont worry you're ok and normal.

people watching and for you men watching is an art and as long as you just watch . . .lol. maybe you're not satisfied with your outlook and envy others of the same sex?

you're as normal as ever, just dont be too obvious or else you maybe mistaken...lol.

Answer 10

its normal to observe handsome guys, when u r a homo.....now the only thing is that, u have become my competitor!