If you could go back in time and marry the person you think you should have, would you? Even if it meant that?

Question

the children you have now would not have been born?

Answer 1

I had a dream once. The house was unusually quiet. I decided to creep up the stairs to see if my precious girls were still asleep. When I got to the top of the stairs, I noticed their bedroom door was open and empty. No sign that the babies were in the crib, no little girl in her bed. I began to search frantically for my girls. I began screaming their names. My (then) husband came up the stairs and asked me what I was screaming for. "Where are my babies, where are my girls?" He was confused, "Which girls?", he was looking concerned, "Whose girls?"
My heart pounded in my throat and I felt a keening wail breaking the surface, "My beautiful little girls.." I named them in order and described to perfection. He looked at me as though I had gone mad. "We only have Tim, we have only ever had Tim." He was trying hard to reach me and make me understand that we were unable to have any more and even though they sounded like lovely little girls, they just didn't exist. I screamed, "They are real, I gave birth to them, I nursed them, I stayed up nights with them. They exist!!" I began to tear the house apart looking for them, but it was to no avail. All evidence of their existence was gone. I crumpled into a heap on the floor and began to weep uncontrollably, "They were so real, they were so beautiful...." That is how I found myself when I awoke, in a heap on the floor weeping desolately, grieving the loss of my children.
That was over twenty years ago and that dream remains etched in my brain. They were the only reason that marriage had ever been good. I would have still married him. Just to have that joy and sorrow, again.

Answer 2

Absolutley not. Although I believe whole heartedly I married the right person, I would not sacfrice anything that wouldnt allow me the daily joys of being a mother. My children have made me the person I am today and without them my husband no may not have even fallen in love in love me. They are the entire reason for happiness now.

Answer 3

Absolutely. IN fact, after 20 + years, I still have dreams of this person, and the feelings are just as strong...I gave up my one real love, a love I will never find again. Can' t undo it, for they died shortly after I left them. I will forever regret that it came down like that, but truly ,it was out of my control . LIfe is a SOB when it comes to its jokes. I have been the butt of life's jokes for my entire life. But I survive, find happiness where it lies, but nothing like the love and passion I felt then. And never will again. So sad to see good love go bad.

Answer 4

no way. I am with the person I think I should be with even with all the trouble we had and still have. inspite of all the differences and the arguments.. i also have the most precious little girl, I would never give her up for the world..

Answer 5

Well, the person I have a child with isn't the person I married. Such a shame. I may have lost my true love, but then again, maybe not.

Answer 6

I have kicked myself in the *** a million times for not staying with my high school sweetheat 25 years ago, but no my little girl is my life.

Answer 7

Only if the person I love feels the same way.

Answer 8

Yes, nothing is worse than learning that you did the wrong thing and now it's too late.

Answer 9

I wouldn't need to because I married the person I should have. (^.^)

Answer 10

wow ... shakes head .. I married the one I think I should have , and I still believe he's the right man for me .