I just had a fight with my dad.?

Question

I was at my dad's house last week. He decided to be a real parent for the first time and wanted to "talk" becaused he was "worried", but really he just bitched at me about disrespecting his wife and son. I used to get along with him, but with all the confrontations, I decided to leave. My grandparents drove me to my house (six hours). What should I do now? I feel really guilty about having fun or hanging with my step dad.

Answer 1

apologize

Answer 2

It must be very hard having to deal with all this. This is the reason why so many unhappy couples stay together, because it's the kids who suffer most. Be strong...make the best of your situation, so when you are an adult you can look back and you can be proud of yourself....because no matter how tough the situation...you used it to become a stronger person. Have fun...stop feeling guilty....treat everyone as if it's their last day on earth.

Answer 3

Don't feel guilty about having fun with your step-dad... some biological dads aren't as fatherly as they should be.
Sounds like he wasn't really trying to be a real parent, but was being a real pain.
If he wanted to be a real dad, he could've just said he loves you & left it at that... instead of giving you the talk he gave you, he could've given you love.
As for disrespecting his wife & son, that could've been dealt with later on down the road.

Answer 4

Never feel guilty about having fun.
Your Dad wanted to 'talk' because he needed to tell you how he felt.
It's not the end of the world though.
I think you should talk to him more and also express (nicely) how you feel about everything.
And finally, does he have a point? Are you in fact dissing his wife and son? If so, what can you do to change this?

good luck

Answer 5

It's a hard situation. Try to be reasonable... Your dad knows just a little bit more than you do, but he's still a person..first timer too. Nobody on this planet has been a person a buncha times and knows EXACTLY how to do it. Realize that everyone has love in their heart for those that they care about and try to see where he's coming from. If you think you know more than him...show him by being a mature person who can communicate and compromise.

If you want to be treated like an adult...act like one. It's old, it's cliche' but it's friggin accurate as hell ain't it?

Answer 6

Just wait for things to calm down, then go out for a walk or coffee with your dad and tell him how you are feeling.
The best thing to do to make up with him. And then he will see how you are maturing. Don't let the fight keep you away from your dad. Be the bigger person here and call him.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You did the right thing... Just let things cool off for a couple of weeks then call him and say "I'm sorry". He's your dad after all and it's in the ten commandments that we should be respectful to our parents (even though they're unbearable).

Answer 8

Think about why you feel the way you do. Really think about it. Don't not look at any aspect of it because it'll hurt or you might cry. Think about why he does what he does. Not because you need to forgive but understanding can bring perspective.

Answer 9

why feeling guilty? no need. if your step-dad is more loving and understands u better, there is no harm in being with him n having fun.

Answer 10

Respect your dads wife and your relationship will likely improve.

Answer 11

I reccomend writing two letters
1) <> Why he pissed you off, and how much it irritates you
2) <> How you feel after the fact and a suggestion or two about how to improve the situation, then ask for his input (how he feels and his ideas for improvement)

PS. listen to mickey above. he is smart AND right