him and calls at 4am it is ok .She did this once and got an attutide with me cause i told her he was sleeping and that she needed to call at a better time to talk to him but she said it was a emercency but she couldnt tell me she was pushing for him when i would have helped her since i was up .Then later on i said i was sorry for getting an attutide but she never said sorry back for getting rude with me and telling me she can call him when ever she wants. she just put all the blame on me it seemed like.And now she is coming back to florida and i almost sure she is going to try to get kelvin to hang out with her as much as possible and also expect him to watch out for her so nothing happens to her.so basically is it wrong for me to not like this girl cause of this stuff?
2006-07-15 17:55:34 · 9 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
see another thing she uses the excuse we grew up togther on me and he does the same he says there is nothing there like that that they are just friends
2006-07-15 18:00:34 · update #1
NO its not wronge. Watch out 4 her she might try to take ur man.
2006-07-15 17:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point on how upsetting this situation can be. They have been friends for a very long time. But yet you are married to him and out of respect for your family their should be boundaries with her when she can call. You had every right not to get your husband up. And her coming back to town my cause trouble. I was married for a short period and I just new not to answer his cell phone. But he would have his lady friends calling at all hours of the night. Needing this or that. One night it was mid night and he had to return something he had borrowed from her. He was not gone long, so I know there was no hanky panky. He should have told his friends that were girls that now that he was married the middle of the night calls were not appreciated. Anyway he cheated on me and we were married for a short time. I am so embarrassed to say how short our marriage was.
But then on the other hand I agree with your husband. They have been friends for a very long time. I have a guy friend who is my best friend. I can call him anytime day or night and if he is not at work he will drop what he is doing to come to my rescue. To change my tire or fix a leaky pipe or a computer problem. This man is single and has never gotten mad at me for calling. So there are times when a person really needs help and has a problem and only has one person to lean on and turn to. Maybe your husband is the only friend she has.
I can see both sides because I have been on both sides. So I wish you the best of luck in figuring this thing out. Sit down and have a talk with your husband and say you understand she is your friend, but she has to respect your family. You have every right to dislike this girl. But then if she is such a good friend then you should have met her before. But then not true my husband now ex I only met two of his friends. I feel sorry for the situation you are in. Ask yourself this, Are you more upset that she calls, or are you jealous because she is a women? If a male friend of his called at that time would have you gotten so upset. I have been there. So if you ever want to chat send me a message.......... and good luck.
oh and one more thing I would not give up my best friend who is a male. and if I were to ever get married again and not at the court house, I would have him walk me down the isle. since my dad is dead. male and female can be best friends.
2006-07-16 01:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that a husband should have a woman as his "best friend", that's what I think. If as the Bible says...
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
...how much more should that apply to friends, especially female ones?
2006-07-16 01:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong of you. Her telling you that she could talk with him whenever SHE wanted, that was so wrong of her. She needs to learn her place in both your lives. Your hubby should be setting her straight about that! And if that doesn't work, she needs to be out of your lives!
2006-07-16 01:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married, your spouse is supposed to become your best friend.
She's wrong to do you that way... she's being selfish.
He's wrong to do you that way... he's immature.
2 is company... 3 is a crowd... she needs to butt out.
I would tell them both that she has to stay away.
If he doesn't like that, I'd leave him.
2006-07-16 02:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate the ***** all you want...id pull the ***** off to the side and threatin her life if it was me....id make her so scared shed never call or come around again....
2006-07-16 01:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by valerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all right well here's what you can do ask your husband with he can hang out with he's friends somewhere else
2006-07-16 01:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. It's perfectly ok for you not to like this girl.
2006-07-16 00:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by drummer4justus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his best friend is a woman? you got trouble - ditch the *****
2006-07-16 01:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋