My cousin who is only 13 is very bad. She talks with older people on line and she runs away from home all of the time. I don't know if she is doing anything sexual but I'd assume she is and I don't think she is mentally ready to. Her mother knows everything that is going on because people have told her. Everyone in my family knows too. No one has done anything about it. I want to know if anyone has any advice for me on how I can help her because I am 15 myself and I believe that this behavior is not appropriate. Since no one in my family wants to do anything (although my father was the one who told her mother so he thought it was inapropriate he just never acted on it otherwise) I want to help her and I need serious advice.
2006-07-15 17:45:25 · 10 answers · asked by usa_grl15 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your family as a whole need to do an intervention with her. i think she is just acting out because she doesn't think anyone cares. i would say tell the oldest and most responsible person in your family how you feel and ask for help. I think your cousin needs immediate help before something bad happens to her. The best thing is to also let her know you aren't judging her, you just love her and care for her. i think you should also try to be a good influence on her, let her see how you react to situations and maybe she will change. if all else fails, go to a pastor,teacher,social worker at school or any adult until someone listens to you. Your cousins life could very well depend upon it. Good luck.
2006-07-15 17:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people try to rescue others. It is a hard position to stand by and do nothing.
It is her mother's responsibility to do something about this. From what you have posted, it seems like she needs to see a well-trained therapist. It may be very difficult to turn around a young person headed in the wrong direction.
You could show an interest in her since no one else appears to show much of an interest.
There are a few other things you could do. You could show her the movie, 'Scared Straight', which is about the change in attitude that troubled youths have when they visit an actual jail.
You could show her the Perverted Justice website which details the criminal behavior of adults preying on children. They currently have three children who are missing after having online chats with adults.
But, don't blame yourself if you can't bring about change in your young cousin. These are tricky cases.
2006-07-16 01:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is in serious trouble. She could get raped or killed doing the stuff that she's doing. I don't think she realizes the danger she is in.
You need to keep her busy. Get her involved in a group that helps her to feel good about herself.
Also, if you know older people are propositioning her on-line for sex, you could contact the police and get those people arrested. Maybe that would make her realize the seriousness of the games she is playing.
2006-07-16 00:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lucky to have a caring cousin. Unless an adult steps in and take charge of the situation, there is very little you can do. Write to Dr. Phil. Maybe he can wake up the adults and make step up.
Don't let her drag you down with her.
2006-07-16 00:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by pammy n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your fears to an adult and go to a counselor with your cousin.
Have her watch the movie Thirteen. I think it will help alot. Have her watch it with her parents and then have her discuss with them what feelings the movie has given her and where it parallels with her life. I have used this method and it works.
2006-07-16 00:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call children services. They will look into what's going on with her. Her mother needs to press charges against her for delinquency though.
2006-07-16 00:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cousin needs some good punishment. today in life parents are so worried about punishing their children too harsh especially cause of those stupid books. "talk to your children, they'll listen" bullsh*t. your cousin needs a good beating. no not child abuse. but a good slap to knock some sense in her.
or keep your cousin occupied so there's no need for her to go online.
2006-07-16 01:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by mozartrox811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is obviously a reason why she is rebelling so much against the family structure.
Of course most teenagers, will at one stage, try rebelling against there parents, as they are wanting more freedom .
suggest , that the parents do things with the girl.
2006-07-16 03:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Logan_brett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of the black sheep of the famliy?
2006-07-16 00:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. tell her how u fell. tell her y its NOT ok.
hope it works out
2006-07-16 02:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋