I have some people that want to beat me up. What do I do?

Question

Here is what I did to get them to want to beat me up. At school, they decided to throw my books in the garbage because I was a Freshman. I didn't say anything to them and just laughed it off but they caught me rolling my eyes but it was not even at them though. They said I should get over it and it wasn't a big deal. I had gotten over it. Now they want to beat me up. It's summer but they drive around town all day in there car and when I'm out with my friends they scream things to us just because I rolled my eyes. These are people that you do not want to mess with. I'm not sure what to do. My family says just to ignore it but that hasn't worked in the past and people have the scars to show it. I would appreciate it if I could get some good advice here and no have any people say anything rude. Thanks.

I should say that for the people who said there must be something more to this because they wouldn't do that just for you rolling your eyes, they are. That is all I did and they started yelling at me for it and said they were going to beat me up and have been harrassing me ever since.

Answer 1

it looks like you've gotten quite a few good answers, I went through similar when i was in high school, there was a group of people who everyone thought was big and bad they didn't like me because of my older sister (she wasnt the brightest bulb in the pack and had a bad attitude to boot) anyhow, i tried the safety in numbers thing, dont rely on it if a confrontation does happen, you'll find out quick that at your age there are verry verry few people who are really looking out for you. there are only two real ways to resolve an issue like this (ignoring it is not one of them, it only helps the problem get worse) 1. you talk to an athority, obviously your parents dont count because they arent doing anything to help. if these people have made threats to you talk to a police oficer (your school laison officer is the best bet) they may give you advice give these people a warning or try to help you in another way, the only problem with this is it doesnt allways solve the issue, infact it rarely does. 2nd option is to stand up to them, tell them to get over it (refrain from calling them losers because they obviously are if there still hung up about something that happened during the school year, i mean havent you been out of school for at least a month now?) bullys only bully people when they get a reaction out of them, if you stand up to them they figure out that your no fun anymore, if they try beating you up take it dont bother running because they wont leave you alone as much as i hate to say it you have to either take the beating or if its worth it fight back, who knows they may fight like crap when someone actually fights back. in no way shape or form am i telling you to try to get in a fight but if it does happen be prepaired, go to a local ymca or other gym and work out, if you can take up self defense courses do so, but whatever you do, dont let bullies push you around, it will ruin your life, you shouldnt be afraid to walk the streets of your town or the halls of your school, dont let them rob you of these simple pleasures!
i hope this helps some, and have a good summer break

Answer 2

I think there's some pretty good advice here. I say show no fear. And if nothing else works, take some self defense classes. I have four brothers and a dad who, having received some pointers when he was maintenance man at a prison, teaches his kids about pressure points. Thus, I think I ought to be able to hold my own in a fight-- I'm also pretty strong. I would probably be okay. You might need to learn stuff and work out a bit-- good physical shape is a big plus. If you decide to fight and want some pointers, and can't find anyone who can demonstrate, e-mail me.

Good luck-- I hope you survive this unscarred and go on to have a good life. I hope you have no reason to be grateful for the experience gained.

Answer 3

Been there... I ignored them for the longest time but it really did nothing but give them the idea that they could do it with no concequence. NOT GOOD it can get worse. not going to bore you with details. High school can be a total pain. The bag in the trash can thing is pretty comon. It's like a hazing ritual for freshmen. Now it sounds like they just get a kick out of messing with you. When your friends are with you and they do this call them on it. worst case you get punched a few times. or make friends with some upper classmen next year and then see if they will return the favor to them a few times for ya. Or if they make you mad enough when you got a couple friends with ya don't say a word and just walk up calm as you can and punch him right in the stomach as hard as you can. don't let him see it coming. he will have the wind knocked out of him, as he bends over to catch his breath punch him in the face once or twice. the last part is just what i did one day. They sure had second thoughts about picking on me after that.

Answer 4

Being has snitch has worked for me in the past. But I really don't know who to report such things. Although, ignoring them might be the easiest way out. I mean if you got so much from rolling your eyes, what more if you do try to retaliate. Of course the choice is a question of pride and that you only go once through this crazy mixed up life!

Answer 5

well, i sugest you not go to the cops for the sole reason that they will just come harder, if you have a group of friends that are there for you use them...strength in numbers, or if you have friends that are older than the people or that are good fighters stick with them, or...being that you are in highschool let them hit you cause if they are older than you you can press serious charges and get pay back, especially if they are over age assult on a minor is a major crime like child abuse...i know its better said than done but i sugest you put this same question on the police and law inforcement category and see what they say

Answer 6

I, like many other people when they were young have gone through this so I feel your pain. I am to the point now where i can stand up to anyone, but that may not be your case.

First dont take it personal, they have low self esteem. They want a reaction from you so dont give them one. If you can use humour it will throw them off guard sometimes, but that might not be possible.

Talk to parents or guidance counselor who can resolve the issue without anyone knowing you came to them for help. Dont be alone. Surround yourself with people so ther e is no chance of physical violence.

I know how to scare the lights out of them from doing this again so if you email me I will help you. If not, I hope things work out.

I hate bullying so much. Dont lose your self esteem over this PLEASE! Many of us have gone through this.

Answer 7

i can understand where your coming from when i was in HS no one liked me and i never got along with anyone because i was mature for my age and i didnt want to be stupid.
i never fought in HS, and i always ignored everyone and trust me the old saying ignore them and they will go away doesn't work, i have never gotten beat up but i sure wish i did something about the people talking about me.

either tell the police or HS principle, or beat the **** out of them and get suspend for a week or too, if your under 18

Answer 8

First tell your parents that these girls are serious about wanting to fight you. If you parents say ignore it then go to the school counselors, the dean, the principle. Go to someone in authority. You should stand your ground with these girls. They want you to be scared of them and feel threatened let them know your not even if you are. Good luck!

Answer 9

I would contact the police. These kids may have juvenile records but the police haven't been able to act on their behavior because kids are afraid to tell. If there are scars and they are harassing you it is time to call in some help.

Answer 10

Call a policeman when they are around threating you, if you do this a couple of times they will get the message that there are some one always ready to protect you, I would say they will get scared and leave you alone.