My boyfriend works 24/7 as a tow truck driver. It makes it really difficult for him to see me as he works so much. I suppose given the hours that he works. He loves me. I love him a lot too. He occasionally gets a weekend off. When he does have a weekend off, he goes out drinking with his mates instead of spending time with me. I do not want to seem selfish even though it may sound like i am being selfish.
I would love to spend some quality time with my boyfriend when i can. Especially when it is time for him . He has said that he has lost interest in sex which i find as unusual. Most guys love sex.
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2006-07-15 16:20:53 · 16 answers · asked by Lorrs S D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You must open up this problem with your BF and tell him about your demands!Maybe he is just very secured about your relationship that both of you deeply in love with each other as he had given all his trust to you!Do something that will arouse him,be affectionate and passionate!Sometimes because of his fatigue as truck driver he got this sex drive malfunction and lack of energy nutrients because he needs food supplements rather than drinking beers or wine!And the most important is you must get married so that there would be some changes in your situation being one family that obliged him to give more attention to your family and when having a baby or children he comes home frequently or stay at home with the quality time you want!Marriage and family will change him a lot as responsible father and husband to motivate him!
2006-07-15 16:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have to assume that he is the only one that drives this tow truck and there is no one else working. although, with your last sentence i have to wonder if there is something else going on. is he really working 24/7? if not, then you need to find out what he is doing. i'm sorrry, but it just seems fishy to me. for someone to work 24 hours a day, seven days a week doesn't give him any time to sleep. plus, i don't know where you live, but that is way too many hours a week to be working legally without making massive overtime. then the fact that you said that when he is off he wants to spend time with his buddies over you. and that he lost interest in sex. that could be one of two things, he either is sooo over worked that he is too tired to want it, or he lost interest in you. if i were you i would try and talk to him and find out what is going on. if he loves you like he says he does then he would want to spend time with you as opposed to his friends.
2006-07-15 16:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by awolves74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but if he feels more like going out with his buddies in his limited free time rather than spend it with you, he's not much of a boyfriend. I would stop worrying about how you can get him to spend more time with you and start trying to find a boyfriend who actually cares about you. The sex thing seems a little off too. I mean, some men do lose interest in sex but it's usually due to medical or emotional problems that you would probably know about or notice.
2006-07-15 16:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at first I was going to say that perhaps because he is working all the time it would be OK if you rode along with him as long as he wasn't breaking any company rules. Unfortunately once you said that on his time off he spends his time drinking with his mates it set off alarm bells in my head, as well as his lack of interest in sexual relations. The only thing that I can suggest you do is show him the respect enough to discuss your feelings with him, If you get the answers that you want try to figure out how exactly you can divide his free time for both you and his mates both alone and together for a well rounded relationship. If you get the answers that you don't want then I suggest that it is time to move on and find a man who has time love and respect for you and your feelings. good luck
2006-07-15 16:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful that you are so committed to making things work with this guy but as painful as it sounds, it takes two people trying, to make any relationship work. From what you have written, it sounds like you are making all of the effort.
Any individual that works as much as you boyfriend needs downtime. Since he gets so little I can understand why he goes out with his friends. They offer a stable and low maintenance option. A relationship requires effort and energy, something he just may not have due to his workload.
Take an honest look at your needs and his. Perhaps right now a full-time relationship is too much for your guy. Maybe you two need to take break or at least allow you to see other people since he is so busy. That way you can both have time to re-evaluate what you want and need out of life.
Good luck. Relationships always have their challenges.
2006-07-15 16:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be really difficult for you, sexually and mentally.
I'm not meaning to be rude or anything but could it be that he doesn't find women intresting that sort of way??
Maybe he's into guys???
Or he may not be a serious about you as you are about him,
Girl you need someone who can be there for you, not only when it suites him, but also suites you aswell.
If you really feel for this guy, then I say stick it out and wait for him, why not go out with him and his mates, or ask him to spend one night with you, and the other with his mates, or are you allowed to accompany him while he drives??
Do you guys have cellphones, if so why not text eachother or talk on the phone??
I hope what ever your decision it works out for you.
2006-07-15 16:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by huneebubz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he is always working when he says he is? I ask that cause it is weird for a guy to lose interest in sex and I was wondering do you think there could be someone else in his life? I hope not, but it sounds funny to me. I would check to see if he is working ALL the time he says he is. Good Luck!
2006-07-15 16:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by delfin716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-10-06 06:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peresonally and I mean this out of sincere respect, I do not think he is in love with you honey. He does not appear to want to be with you when he has available time and for him to not want sex with his "girlfriend" is not what most guys especially truck drivers would say.
I would tell him good-bye and move on.
2006-07-15 16:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by UOPHXstudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejected as in you won't read them?
Ask if you can go to work with him- Tell him That he needs to make sometime for you if your relationship is going to work. He can't just leave you there all year every year
maybe you should look into a new boyfriend (one that you'll actully see)
2006-07-15 16:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋