I got saved when I was18, I am now29. I have dealt with this since I was14. I really want to be straight; but I have no sexual feeling for a woman. And the thought sortof makes me sick. I have had 3 sexual partners about7 years apart. I have been going to church since I was very young. I quit around12-17 got back into church, and turned my life over to God. I have prayed and fasted that God remove the desires and thought of being Gay. To send me a wife, but then I think I might not be happy if I still have these gay feeling. Did god create me this way.I go through deppression because of this. And now it is worst, I love this man that is married w/kids. He is also a Christain, and loves his wife very much. but has the same desires. I know this is very bad. I really want to end it, but he makes it difficult for me. I have been trough tarapy before but not for this bad situation. Do you think God will forgive me and not punish me for this. I want to be happy;how can I be happy?
2006-07-15 16:16:28 · 12 answers · asked by grouptdo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I can say with full certainly that God loves you very much. Everyone struggles with thoughts that are not pleasing to God from time to time in different areas. The Word of God says that a broken and contrite heart the Lord will not deny. If you honestly come before the Lord asking the Lord to forgive you with a repentant heart for the thoughts He will. To repent means to desire to turn from the former thoughts and go in a new direction. Be honest with God and let him know you don't have the strength to do it apart from Him. Ask for strength. When we are weak He is strong. Do you have safe strong Christians that can keep you accountable? I would surround myself with strong Christian friends who love you enough to keep you accountable with your thoughts. So you can pray through them together. Also I know it will be difficult but I would put distance between yourself and this guy you are describing. It sounds like a dangerous temptation right now. You need time to heal. But know that even though you are struggling right now the Lord does love you and he wants the absolute best for you. Yes it is possible that the gay thoughts will get less and less. God wants you whole and healed. Don't give up friend. Hang in there!
2006-07-15 16:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by peace316 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God will not change those thoughts, since He was the one who gave them to you in the first place. Under NO circumstances should you marry; that would be horribly unfair to the woman.
You must learn to accept yourself as you are. Depending on your denomination, that might mean changing churches. The Episcopals are way ahead of the pack in this area.
And one more thing: there are a lot of straight people, like me, who do not and will not judge you. Good luck.
2006-07-15 23:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Keith P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with how you feel. God will accept you any way. He made you that way didnt he? Don't worry about and stop listening to those people who think it's wrong. It's not. Just because you find other men attractive doesnt mean youre a terrible person. And I personaly think people who think that have a problem! You are just being yourself and people have to accept that. I'm glad you can come out and say you are gay without having problems of what people will think.
-Elizabeth
2006-07-15 23:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be happy is to be Blessed by God. Our FATHER does not forgive you (unless) you ask HIM for forgiveness.
To "Think" of a encounter is not a sin...to "ACT" on it is!
When you repent and ask for forgiveness...YOU ARE FORGIVEN (and Our FATHER DOES NOT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT IT AGAIN). however, IF YOU CONTINUE TO SIN, YOU HAVE NEVER "TRULY" REPENTED, because to repent means that you have a change of heart...and I think that is where your problem lies....your heart! You seem to want to be able to love, but, you don`t seem to know what true love is. I suggest you start every morning with prayer (before you ever get out of bed), then STUDY the Word of GOD ( I did not say read it) STUDY IT; Continue to pray (and every time you have an "impure thought" pray again ( I don`t care if it`s a 100 times a day); and then end your day with study time and prayer. Trust In GOD...HE WILL deliver you out of your bondage, and, a wonderful "female" companion WILL come your way. My prayers are with you.
2006-07-15 23:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by ourshepherdschapel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all God forgives all sin. Now to get to the root of the issue. If you remember in the Word the parable of the demon possesed man that was delivered and later the spirit returned to find the house all cleaned (sins forgiven) and he brought with him seven spirits worse than him and the later state of the man was worse than the former? This is a picture of a forgiven Christian that has not filled the void left by sin forgiven with the Word of God and the infilling of the Holy Spirit. The ONLY way you will escape these thoughts and actions is to fill yourself DAILY with the Word and the Holy Spirit. Ask the Lord to fill you with His Spirit bodily (see Acts 2:4 and continue reading the ministry of Paul in that book) and read and MEMORIZE the Word (particularly the Psalms and Proverbs). Understand the Corinthians (1 and 2nd) and what they went through (similar situations to your own) and learn and KNOW (through memorization) what God has for your life. You need to discuss this candidly with your pastor and ask him to provide or direct you to material and support groups that can help you. As far as getting married is concerned your first need is for you to get into a powerful relationship with your Heavenly Father so that temptation will diminsh in your life. satan will constantly accuse you of your past and bring it to your rememberance, but the Word says "Greater is He that is IN your than he that is in the world". You CAN succeed. God wants you to succeed. Your brothers and sisters in Christ want you to succeed and I KNOW God will give you victory in this. I KNOW IT.
Go for the Word. Go for God. Go for VICTORY. You can do it!!!
2006-07-15 23:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recommend for you to read this book:what the bible really says about homosexuality by daniel a. helminiak, Ph.D. really find out what pastors really dont say. what you'll learn will really shock you and blow your mind. mind you this book is written by a pastor who is heterosexual. learn the TRUTH because it will SET YOU FREE. remember to pass on this information to all those who think they know the "truth". be happy, be informed, be proud to be you!!!! pay it forward. keep me posted!
2006-07-16 02:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is NOT a sin. Just like god made you a man, he made you gay. Love yourself and god will love you.
2006-07-15 23:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a 23 bi sexual female and if you ar ehappy go for it. no sin is greater than the others.
2006-07-15 23:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by rrshorty06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's like this, some people aren't going to go to heaven. Gays are those people. Quit loving men. That's wrong and you know it.
2006-07-15 23:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fall into temptation!!! Find ways to avoid him and pray, pray, pray!!!!!!
2006-07-15 23:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋