Ok, this is my situation. My husband and I live with a friend of mine and her daughter. We pay her $350 a month for a room, we buy groceries, and put at least $80 in her gas tank every week. She lets me use her car to take my husband to work and pick him up. We also pay for oil changes and other upkeeps on the vehicle. Not to mention I watch her daughter sometimes when she has to work. Well, she was pissed off today for different things, but when she gets pissed off she leaves with her car and we are stuck without a way to go anywhere. We are trying to get another car, but money is really tight right now. She took off tonight and whenever she does that, she doesn't come back when she says and the car is on empty. When we are upset, we can't just leave for the weekend, we have to go in our room and shut the door. I don't think it's fair that when she is pissed off, she takes it out on us. If we try to confront her about it, it will only make her more angry. What should I do?
2006-07-15 16:12:45 · 4 answers · asked by Karma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all $350 is a lot to pay for a room. You can get a hole in the wall for that much but at least it's yours and u don't have to put up with crazy biatches. You gotta ask what's wrong. It's not like you're confronting her it's just prob solving. Maybe she thinks you're messy or unorganized or maybe she just doesn't like the arrangement anymore. ask her what it is you and ur hubby are doing wrong and then fix it. If it's unfixable then leave and start taking the bus to work you'll save money cuz $80 for gas a week is alot. She's got it made. Don't be afraid to speak up.Life is too short to be unhappy and really it sounds like she is taking advantage of you and she isn't really a tru friend if shes hussling you.
2006-07-15 16:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
having to live with someone is never a good situation. She probably feels that you have been there to long and you have worn out your welcome. Find somewhere else to go. In fact, tell her you have to quit paying her for the room (that is way to high a price for a room) so that you can get your own vehicle and get out on your own. Continue to buy groceries and watch her daughter for her.
2006-07-15 23:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you want to make up the rules you have to own the goods. Get a car of your own, then you can leave whenever you like. Don't take it out on her or take it personally, she owns the car and if she has had a bad day and needs to cruse it to empty, then that is her perogative.
2006-07-15 23:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by jazzzame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT U AND UR HUBBY DO FOR UR FRIEND, SHE NEEDS TO HAVE HER OWN AND U GUYS NEED TO HAVE UR OWN. I WOULD GET A 2ND JOB AND SAVE UP TO MOVE OUT--FRIENDS ARE VERY HARD TO LIVE WITH, LET ALONE WITH UR HUSBAND TOO!!! U GUYS COULD PUT 2 OR 3 HUNDRED MORE DOLLARS INTO UR BUDGET AND GET UR OWN PLACE--IT'S NOT HEALTHY FOR UR FRIENDSHIP OR A MARRIAGE. UNFORTUNATELY IT'S HER HOUSE SO EVEN IF IT'S WRONG SHE CAN DO THAT.
2006-07-15 23:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Work-N-Hrd-2-Mk-It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋