I've kinda of known it since I was 12 but I repressed it for a long time. Now I've finally started letting others know. How old were you when the events surronding your sexuality came to light?
2006-07-15 15:44:09 · 23 answers · asked by collegedebt 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's really nice to hear from you guys. A lot of people talk about coming out when they're younger so I thought I might just be "off" as it were =)
Thanks again.
2006-07-15 15:59:51 · update #1
adolescence is a very tough time as it is, and most people experience mixed emotions during that time about their sexuality. so with that said it is really hard to be sure until you are past adolescence, which can be anywhere up to age 25. but once you are comfortable with yourself you will be able to express it better, thus "coming to terms" with your sexuality. so no that is not late, it may actually be early. you have all your life to figure out what makes you happy. don't stress about it. just be yourself and the rest will come naturally!!
2006-07-15 16:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by MaryMary 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 and think that is late. Ive known since i was younger but tried to make myself straight for too long. Most people come out around the age of 20. Youre an adult now and its almost time to be hitting up the clubs. Just be glad your not one of those dirty old men you see that came out when they were 40 and already have a wife a kids.
2006-07-15 23:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by stevepuff19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's all that late, since everyone comes to terms at their own pace.
I have sort of known since I was about 8 or 9, but I really covered it up and denied it until I was 14. I've only really come to accept it in the last year or so, and I'm 17.
So no, I don't think you're late, or early, or anything. It's just how it is.
2006-07-16 16:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 isn't too old at all. I've know since I was around 13 but only for the last 2 years I've been more accepting of it. Although I'm not out I do feel at peace with it most of the time and I'm 18 now.
2006-07-16 23:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had known since I was 7....but didn't accept it until I was almost married!! I was about 27 before I really started coming to terms with my own sexuality...each person is different...I think 19 is really pretty normal. Good luck in coming out...and just keep in mind it's more of a process...not a one time thing.
2006-07-15 22:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by indigohio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, that's not late in life at all! I came out (sloooowly) when I was in my very early 20's. The funny thing is, I went to an all girls boarding school for my 10th-12th grade years. So while I was soooo busy denying that I was a lesbian, I was surrounded by all these girls! lol. It took me a while to get a grip on who I was, and what I need and want. But let me tell ya, that's a life time journey! Good luck with it.
2006-07-16 00:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still coming to terms with it. At 14 I tried to come out, then said I was just joking. At 17 I said I was bi, dated men, slept with men, really tried to find a relationship that would last so I would stop feeling like crap, and make my family happy. At 21, just this year, I said f*ck it, I'm gay. Haven't looked back since. Sometimes, I do struggle with myself, thinking about my past and things like that, but as for repressing it? Nah, too much trouble. I'm happier being happy than I was pretending to be happy.
2006-07-16 01:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In fact that soulds excatly like my own story.
I kinda knew arould 12 and didn't start to accept til 19 as well.
Most people seem to accept and start to open up arounf High School or college, this is when you are ending puberty and really coming to terms with who you are and begin to find eho you are yourself. It's one of the most normal times.
2006-07-15 23:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by theaterhanz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to be true to yourself.
I've known since I was 15 and repressed it until I was 27. Then they day I told my parents I felt so much better I wished I'd had the courage to do it sooner.
Good luck and be true to yourself!
2006-07-15 22:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by phantom_phan_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone comes to terms with it at a different time. To draw a parallel I knew when I was thirteen but only just started coming out about a year ago (now almost 20). You need not compare yourself and your coming to terms and coming out to others, everyone goes through the process differently and at different times.
2006-07-15 22:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋