should I be mad?

Question

my boyfriend has had my car all day all night. We were supposed to have dinner. He just called about an hour ago to tell me that he just had dinner with everyone. I am here w/o a car, I got all ready, and now from the sounds of it, I'll be here all night now.
When I voiced to him that he should have called sooner, and that it seems he takes advantage of me and does this frequently. (which he does do it more often than I care for)
He got all huffy with me, and said he would call me back... I doubt he will. I don't know what to do... I'm stuck here until he returns with my car... and then I'll have to deal with is attitude.
We live together to complicate the matter more.
Any advise on what to say when he calls back? Any advise to say when he comes home?

Answer 1

You have every right to be mad.

Answer 2

You have every right to be mad at your boyfriend. It would really piss me off if my boyfriend took my car and had dinner already when he said he was to take you out for dinner. It would really annoy me. I suppose there is no point in getting angry and resentful with the boyfriend as that will not help the situation. in this situation i would stay calm. I can understand how you feel. e.g. getting dressed and ready to go out for dinner and the boyfriend doesn't show.

The boyfriend needs to take some responsibility for himself. In that the fact that you and your boyfriend live together. If i were you i would take the keys off him. After all the car is yours and the boyfriend needs to know that fact. Be calm and assertive in this situation.

His attitude is his problem not yours. guys cannot speak to woman in that fashion. It is totally wrong to take his attitude out on you. You cannot be held responsible for his attitude. Boyfriend owns his own attitude. When the boyfriend calls back you could say something like "We need to talk about the arrangements regarding the car and among other things a general talk about things." When he gets home stay calm and cool and collected and reply with a sentence that you need to talk. Be assertive too.

Answer 3

If the car really belongs to you "only"? Take the keys away from him. Tell him to get a cab or walk.
If he takes the keys from you or has another set? And he takes the car again?
Call the police and report it stolen.
If he returns home before the police gets to him?
Then call the police back up and have them come over and arrest him.

Answer 4

Well now I guess u have just learned that u can't loan ur car to him anymore. I mean girl thats ur car, he has some nerve to do what he did, so what u need to do is go get ur car, even if u have to get a ride from someone. And NEVER ever let him have ur car again, because he was wrong for not only keeping it for so long but to go out to dinner without u and in YOUR car too.

He's a asshole. shame on him and if u let him do this again shame on u

Either go get ur car or call and demand that he brings u car to u NOW or tell him ur gonna call the police.

And don't ever let him have ur car again, he eother get his own or he hitch a ride with the frinds he went to dinner with without u

Answer 5

Hey that is your car. and the fact that he just had dinner with everyone, forgetting about your plans is completely rude and inconsiderate. I would not be putting up with this if i were you. If he respected you he would not treat you this way. When he gets home i would ask him how dinner was, then i would slap the **** out of him and leave and stay out til dinner tomorrow, then call him and tell him that you just had dinner with everyone and it was great, ask him how it feels to be left at home alone with no way to go anywhere

Answer 6

It sounds to me that you don't respect yourself very much. You should be treated better, period. Particularly if he has your car. I would be irate, calling the law, and packing his bags. There are obviously problems in the relationship, and he definetly has problems to treat you so disrespectfully. I agree that you should act now and find a new place ... if not, this will just continue on and the next thing you know you won't have a crappy boyfriend_instead you will be a miserable wife!

Answer 7

Sounds like he is using you and you need to decide what step to take next. If it were me I would get my keys back and let him know that from here on out he needs to find his own transportation, then I would sit down and ask what he wants in the relationship and where he thinks it's going. if it's not what you want to hear I would say I think we should separate and wash my hands. I wish you all the best.

Answer 8

I was in the same situation 5 yrs ago. Let me tell you, getting out of that relationship was the hardest, but best thing i could have done. I became stronger for it. He would do the same exact thing to me...act like i never had any right to get mad at him, but i looked at him the wrong way and he would jump down my throat, I can't tell you how many times he accused me of cheating on him and he even stopped me from seeing my friends. you have every right to be as mad as you can be, if he knew you had plans for diner and didn't show up, and has left you completely stranded, that's not right for him to treat you like that and then make you feel like crap for calling him on it. don't let him turn it around on you, he did something wrong and sounds like he can't face the music. good luck, and please stay strong and stand up for yourself. Your happiness is everything!

Answer 9

I'd pack his stuff and having it waiting for him when he got back. As soon as I got my car keys, I hand him the suitcases and say good bye, forever.

You are in an abusive relationship. He is taking full advantage of you and unless you change it, he will get worse. I guarantee it.

Answer 10

yeah, I'd be mad. if the car's in your name when the bf comes home, keep the keys, and start looking for a new place, you may need to move.
if you want to be a real pain, you could report the vehicle as stolen.... and when he comes home, get ready to move out.... things are about to get ugly... if he's treating you like this now... things are only gonna get worse.

Answer 11

take the car keys and don't let him have them back....
don't whine and groan and all that...but just tell him in a calm voice your thoughts and how you didn't care for it one bit (he's going to expect the screaming etc..and this will totally throw him off)..and then go to bed..dont' ask him to join you or anything..and you know..next weekend..make dinner plans..without him. leave him sitting home.