Why men cannot choose to opt out of fatherhood?

Question

Why is it that if a couple has a baby and the mother wants to keep it but the father doesn't the father is forced to pay child support and if a father wants to keep it and a mother doesn't then she can just legally murder the fathers baby and rid herself of any responsibility? So a woman can opt out of motherhood by simply murding a baby but a man cannot opt out of fatherhood. I believe this is sexism.

I hear a lot of females here saying "The man has the right to opt out of having sex" but I didn't hear any of those hypocrites say the same thing about women. Please don't answer this question if you can't treat the sexes equally. This is the political forum so every right a woman has the man should also have and it should be reflected in your answer unless you are a hypocrite.

Answer 1

A father can opt out simply by not having sex. Once he has planted the seed, he has done the damage. It is up to the damaged party to determine how they will handle the damage.

Answer 2

A father can opt of his duties by signing legal papers over to the mother saying he has no parental rights. It depends on where you live of course. But this means you cannot come back into the child's life. A mother can do the same too, either signing the child over to the father or putting the baby up for adoption. (Abortion is not the only option out of motherhood, and usually tends to be a mutual agreement between mature couples who agree it's ok, but adoption is also an opt of parenthood)

It's not sexism, many mothers pay child support and let the father do the main parenting. I have met several divorced fathers who have just that agreement.

Answer 3

I love all these woman trying to rationalize this. Great question and very true. A women can legally back out of parental responsibility by having an abortion. If she doesn't want it and the responsibility she can have an abortion no matter the fathers desires. If the father doesn't want the baby he has no choice and will be responsible for child support for that child until it is a legal adult. They BOTH need to think about that responsibility before having sex. Seems like a double standard to me!

Answer 4

First of all, an abortion is not murder. Second of all, it is actually not true that a woman can unilaterally decide not to keep the child. The basic issue is that the father did not opt out of having sex, they were both equal participants. Therefore there is equal entitlement to and responsibility for a decision about the baby. But that also means that this a responsibility for both parties to share.

Answer 5

Yes it is. You can thank the Feminists for the double standard.
I do think that if you create a baby that BOTH people should be responsible. The only way I would say the woman has the right to make that decision one her own is if she was raped or her personal physical health will be jeopardized. An example of the physical health, my girlfriend became pregnant at a time she was having some serious health issues. The doctor told her she most likely would not be able to carry the baby to term and if she did it was very likely she would die from birthing complications. She did include her boyfriend in the decision to terminate the pregnancy. But, in that instance, I don't think she should be required to.

Answer 6

Wouldn't it be nice to raise a child in a 2 parent, loving home? Why both sexes run from responsibility is a mystery to me. You choose to have sex, but don't want to be responsible for it's possible outcome. How sad. It is sad that a man won't stand up and be responsible. Even sadder, that a woman would choose to kill her baby. Perhaps what we need is a consent form that you fill out before you have sex, outlining what will be done in the case of surprise pregnancy. That way, fathers can "opt out" of parenting in the same way women can. If you disagree on any point, don't have sex. If you go back on your word...you go to court, and hash it out there. What a sad world we have become!

Answer 7

Manhood has been a lost skill. Most men want to be father at heart, but they don't know how! So instead of out they do nothing in hopes that all will work out. Not realizing the great commitment it take. If you look at the whole picture no one wins, because the mother and father made a sound choise too create the child and both will pay one way, or another.

Answer 8

There are 2 distinctive matters right here. people who've a newborn can run yet don't have the potential *no longer* to be a organic and organic be sure. as quickly as a man or woman is someones be sure it is it they're a be sure and on the challenge of adoption it does not recommend biology ameliorations. As for abortion, I genuinely have yet to fulfill a woman who does not war emotionally no be counted if or no longer they understand what bothers them and are engaged on forgiving themselves or they take it out on human beings which turns right into a habit. it isn't any distinctive than a rebellious newborn who seeks out adults friends who show infantile habit believing that that an grownup or yet another group of adults look extra desirable place fashions considering the undeniable fact that man or woman/human beings candy coats unfavourable habit or validates a newborn's irrelevant habit. Political time table - there's a third social gathering modern-day who love money so are happy to help the fore stated. Why could everyone have an interest in this? of direction, a newborn could genuinely no longer get they are getting used, suitable?

Answer 9

Eh.. Although the baby's genes technically do come from both sides, you have to admit that the mother puts a lot more into the child than the father does. I know it's a little unfair, but I wouldn't call it sexism. I personally just mark it down to "life's not fair" and move on, mostly because the alternatives are so unappealing.

Answer 10

It's not sexism, I believe what you're trying to say is "double standards" I see what you're saying though, I do. This isn't every occasion though, abortion can rid a woman of a fetus that was caused by rape and such. There are cases when a mother has to pay child support to the father too, but all in all I do see what you're saying but there's really no legitimate answer, sorry.

Answer 11

hmmm...by murder...you mean 'abortion' i get what you mean.

If a woman wants an abortion...then a man (the father) should have a right to say 'no' ...once the baby is born, i will just take custody of him and you can just pay me child support. But yeah, its not fair that a woman can choose to give the baby up to adoption without consulting the father about it.