2006-07-15 14:15:56 · 24 answers · asked by Niece!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well he has feelings for me too.. and i know its wrong and the biggest rule of friendship. im screwed!
2006-07-15 14:22:23 · update #1
well he has feelings for me too.. and i know its wrong and the biggest rule of friendship. yes they did love each other. im only 17 and soo confused
2006-07-15 14:24:09 · update #2
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX STAY YOUR DISTANCE, you will only be inviting trouble into your friendship with your best friend.
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2006-07-15 14:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same situation. What I did was I sat down and talked to my best friend and asked what happened, why did you two break up, Do you still care for them I casually dropped a few quests. into our conversation and she told me well I told her how i had been talking to him and everything and she asked how I told her the truth I said we are really interested in the same things and hes a great guy to me and she goes so are you thinking about dating him and I told her I like him but if she doesn't approve then of course I will drop it, well she didnt approve at first then she finally talked 2 me about 2 days later and told me that she was just holding feelings and that she was sorry for that and that he is a great guy and anybody would be lucky to go out with him and she said besides I am happy with my guy now and me and him look like we should both move on so now I am happily with my bfs ex. The thing of it is you need to get your bfs pt of view on the situation and then see what their feelings about it is. Most reasons friends get mad are b/c you lie and they feel hurt that you would go behind their backs and not ask or see how they felt. ALso if your bfs not been with that person for a while they might not have any lingering feelings but try and see if that works~~
2006-07-15 21:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...and done that. I dunno. How old are you? The older you are the worse it is..ie. were they married and have kids??? Or is this a High school romance? Does she still love him? Did he dump her?????? If so, then stay away. But if she dumped him, and if she has another guy (and only if she has another guy) PLUS waiting at least 6-12 months...then "maybe" and "feel out your friend's feeling for her ex. B/c if you even have a slight doubt, then you have to ask yourself,if risking hurt feelings and a friendship worth this guy. In my experience....men come and go...girlfriends are forever.
2006-07-15 21:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WeLL you are RIgHT it is wrong and since you know it you also know that you can NEVER act on these feelings. For him to be interested or even flirting with you is a major disrespect to your friend. Also he may be using you to get back with her or to get back at her. It would NEVER work out , becuae you are chosing a guy over your girl and that is a disaster waiting to happen. They broke up for a reason and you know that you are making a big mistake. If i was you I would not even talk to him or be around him, because you are just setting yourself up for years od regret.
good luck
2006-07-15 21:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're your TRUE bestfriend, then you can talk to them about it. They should understand that you cant help who you have feelings for, but on the other hand.... there is the golden rule: Never date a friends ex... It can get extremely messy. My advice to you is to get over it, You cant help who you feel for, but there will be another one to come and steal your heart. Don't jepordize your friendship.
2006-07-15 21:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your best friend then forget abaout it. Thats like the cardinal rule in friendships. If he/she loved the person then it's a definite no no.
2006-07-15 21:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your best friends ex have feelings for you and if you were to hook up with your best friends ex would you still be best friends with your best friend this is some thing you should think about and how much you value your friendship. although you could talk to your best friend and be honest about your feelings towards her ex
2006-07-15 21:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's lots of fish in the sea. Go out and fish for one of your OWN. That is a line you don't cross. Do you value your friendship?
2006-07-15 21:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if she's your best friend, even if she says she doesn't care who he's with, I'm sure she doesn't mean you. I could never sleep with someone my friend slept with, you'll loose the friend, and most likely loose him at some point. friends last forever, men come & go, get over the crush, use it in your dreams, not reality
2006-07-15 21:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by silverfox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here the the unwritten friend rule: if you want to keep your friend, don't date their ex. If you do and it doesn't work out, not only are you single, but you no longer have your friend.
2006-07-15 21:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u hav feelings 4 him u should'nt pretend the're not there. Talk to your friend, tell her how u feel. If u let her know chances are she'll understand. Keeping this to yourself is'nt healthy, it will just keep bugging u.
2006-07-15 21:43:58 · answer #11 · answered by sarah_n_rj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋