Wont take me for who i am.?

Question

my family is so mean to me...i dont exactly dress like a prep or a normal person. i dress more like an emo/goth type person. and they are always making fun of me and trying to change me in any way. and this is just who i am. what should i do? i dont want to change myself to make them happy. i want to be me. please help me on this one. thanks

yeah im a good kid. i stay out of trouble.
and its not like i worship the devil.

Answer 1

it seems 2 me dat u dont like doin what others do & i think dat is a GREAT thing. i love doin things u dont c so all i have 2 say is just be yourself & do NOT change 4 any reason. its better thn followin the crowd.....im glad 2 hear some1 is bein their own person. yes u will have peeps talkin bout wn they c dat it wont change u it blow ova. i know they your perents but do not let evn them change u.

Answer 2

What if your family came up to you and said, "You know what you are? You are a typewriter. Not only that, you are a black typewriter!" and then started laughing... you'd think they were a little nuts huh? Why? Cause you aren't a typewriter maybe? Cause the whole idea of you being a typewriter is a pretty ridiculous idea maybe? You KNOW that which is what makes it kind of funny... maybe even would make you feel kinda bad for your family cause they would be so out of touch with reality if they really thought you were a typewriter.

Well guess what?

You are so incredibly, perfectly you - just exactly the way you are suppose to be right now... and they think you aren't. Kinda funny ... maybe even a little sad that they are so incredibly out of touch with reality to not know that you are perfect just the way you are. Go easy on them - they just don't know.

Answer 3

Well think you will first want to find out what their fears are.. why does it bother them etc. with that then u can address the problem. They might have a certain perception about "goth" which might not be the best.. But if you know what it is and ur not doing that "bad" stuffs and let them know ur not to ease their fears am sure they might let things go... I think the key is communication...

Answer 4

I'll tell you the same thing I told my 14yo daughter. Dont change yourself for anybody. Everybody has their own personality and style. Thats what makes them unique. You shouldn't have to change yourself to please other people. If you do, you end up regretting it in the future. I'd say just worry about being yourself and don't worry about what other people think of you.

Answer 5

my family is the same i wear baggy clothes cuz i hate the tight clothes showing everything i mean the people that loves you should be happy your happy and looks don't matter its whats inside that counts just tell them you like your look and that your happy with it so they should just give up on changing you

Answer 6

Try telling them that this is who you are, and that when they make fun of you, it hurts. If they cannot accept you the way you are, then you'll just have to avoid them as much as possable.

Answer 7

Try talking to them and maybe you'll all come to an understanding. Give it some time and soon this will all wear off.

Answer 8

Maybe you need to dress better, at least part of the time

Answer 9

just be yourself. dont go through life trying to please every one. you dress like what you want to , if they dintt like that then its their loss!!!! dont fret over this. dont change for any one!! if you like yourself then dont worry about what other people think!!!!

good luck, i hope you do the righ thing!

Answer 10

i think as long as your not getting into trouble and going to school and getting good grades, i dont see what is wrong with that.tell your parents that.