abortion (serious answers only please)?

Question

1. how did it impact on your life.
2. do you feel guilty and how do you deal with it.
3. what was your motivation for the abortion.
4. how old were you.

please answer honestly, i have a friend that needs different viewpoints in order to make a decission

Answer 1

Stories from women who have aborted:

http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Other information your friend might need:

Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Answer 2

As I guy, I can't answer any of those questions from experience. As a guy with a lot of friends who have been stuck with a choice, I'd say the following:

1. It impacts your life as much as you let it. Speaking medically, it's as easy as a pill (usually two) and some cramping. It's as hard as a tonsillectomy (an appointment, an hour, and some bad cramping). Avoid - or don't tell - those that are going to judge you.

2. Guilt is for when you do something wrong, not now. If anything, use this as a learning opportunity. Use better protection next time.

3. Motivations? So many. And the only one that matters is yours. The reasons I most often hear are, "not ready for parenthood," "focused on the carreer," "family will kill me," and "yes kids, but not yet".

4. The people I know were between 17 and 36. But if you can get pregnant you can have an abortion.

Finally, one other thing. It's your choice legally. It's your choice as a woman. It's your choice period. But consider talking to your guy. If he's not going to support you when you need it, you need to know that. But if you want to be a couple for the long term, make him feel like he's part of the team.

Answer 3

I have not had an aportion, but I would consider one if I got pregnant now. The reason I feel this way is becauese I am young and I do not have a career yet. Also, I do not think that I am ready for the responsibilty. I would not choose adoption because regardless of what people say I think it would be harder to deal with. You would end up spending all of your energy explaining to everyone all the time why you were pregnant, but dont have a baby. And you would have to go through months of being uncomfortable, ill, possibly unable to work, medical expences, buying new clothes, and then 9 months to think about not getting to love your child when it is born. Abortion is safe and there is no reason to believe that it is wrong. Women have always had abortions. In fact women in the past did not even consider a fetus as a baby untill it had moved in the womb. After an abortion someone would probably feel some guilt about what they had done, but most of it is a result of the negative attention that the media has given to abbortion. In the end you have to consider your own beliefs and make the best decision for yourself. No one can make life changing decisions for you, regardless of how hard they try. Take time to think about it and make the best decision for your values, goals, and beliefs. This decsion takes a strong person, but it is important to make the right decision because regardless of what you do there will always be people who judge you and you will always have regrets...hindsight is always 20/20 and most of the time....its only a colored version of the full story and truth.

Answer 4

First off, my viewpoints don't matter, only your friend can decide what she wants. But if this might help, here we go:

I had an abortion last summer. I chose the traditional route, not the pill option, because the pill is a new procedure compared to the surgical route, and we don't know the long term effects yet.

Guilt comes and goes, but I always know that I made the best choice for my particular circumstance, even when I am feeling sad about it. There is no reason to wallow in guilt, but don't reject it either. Just feel it when you feel it and then move forward. Music helped me explore my feelings a lot, free therapy!!

I had a cousin who was born to my aunt when she was too young. He always felt that he stole my aunt's life away from her, despite all of her efforts to show him otherwise. He had a life full of problems, and eventually killed himself. I feel that if you can't build a nest yet, you shouldn't lay an egg. It's not good for the parents or the children. If you can make it work, by all means, make it work! But if you can't do it, don't feel evil, feel honest!

Trust yourself, and have a great life, either way.

Answer 5

Please tell your friend to very seriously consider adoption, they're are plenty of people who want kids that can't have one and would do anything to have a child. I have a family member who is now 39 and at 17 she had an abortion and still to this day she regrets it and thinks about it every single day. She has 3 girls and wonders if that would have been the little boy she always wanted. It's not a decision to take lightly because once you do it you can't go back and you have to live with knowing what you did.

Answer 6

I had an abortion when I was eighteen. I was so afraid that my parents would find out that I was pregnant, I pawned all of my graduation gifts to pay for it. The guilt is overwhelming, even today. It was 11 years ago, on July 5th and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about my baby. I am on anti-depressants and even spent time in a psych hospital after I attempted suicide. Please encourage your friend to research all of the facts. I was only told what the clinic wanted me to know. Keep in mind they are there to make money, not to be your friend. Please tell her to research both sides of the coin, (pro-life and pro-choice) this will affect her for the rest of her life, and since she is having difficulty making a decision I can only assume that she has a conscience. I don't know how I would have managed having a baby back then, but I know that there are plenty of couples in this world that would have loved to have him or her as their own. Please feel free to contact me at [e-mail] with anymore questions.

Answer 7

my sister had one, then chose to carry her second to term, had two more and her fifth pregnancy she chose to go to term but went into labor at 22 weeks. Her son has cerebral palsey.
I don't know if she feels guilty but by the way she choses to live her life I can't imagine that she feels good about her choices or her self.
She had every excuse in the world for why she couldn't use birth control options. I think to her it was easier to go in for a procedure a couple of times then to curb her promiscuous behaviour. I do know that she cried and felt bad at the time but must have stuffed her feelings because a few years after the first one she was doing it again.
Her first she was late teens like 17 or older and her last was sometime around 23.
The really frustrating part for me is that I offered to raise all 5 of those children and she chose to murder three of them and raise the other two to be self centered burdens on society. There are so many really great people in this world who for one reason or another are unable to have a baby of their own. Encourage your friend to turn her burden into someone else's blessing.

Answer 8

A friend of mine (age 24) had an abortion because she was single and didn't want to raise a child on her own or put her family through the ordeal of pregnancy and giving up for adoption. She said the procedure was like having a really bad, crampy period. Physically, she recovered with no problems, but emotionally, she had problems dealing with having purposely gotten rid of her child....20 years later she still hates that she got rid of her child.

Answer 9

I had an abortion when i was 16 now i'm 22 and married(to the same guy i lost my virginity too and same guy i was pregnant by) we wanna get pregnant and i have irregular periods and it will be hard for us to conceive. yes u have guilt and yes i regret it. but at the time it was what i thought was right. i wouldn't recogmend it but everyone is diff and no one can judge u because alot of the people that told me no got pregnant yr later and had a abortions. ppl are quick to jude when they havent been in the situation themselves.tell your freind to make the desion on her own cuz SHE will have to live with it not anyone else. good look hun..

Answer 10

i have never had 1 but knows someone that has i cant say if they felt guilty but i know i would was to young and didnt want responsabilty she was 18

its not my business but this person i know was very close to me later in life she had trouble with her 1 and only pregnacy plz tell your friend there is always adoption and someday that baby just many thank her for letting it live and think of the joy she will give someone who cant have a baby sorry if this wasnt the answer you were looking for but i just felt i need to answer i would be able to deal better knowing somewhere out there was part of me then not giving it a chance if your friend is under the age of 18 alot of times the parents do really understand