2006-07-15 13:52:42 · 12 answers · asked by lovephoto 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She would want you to think of her in all the happy memories and she would want you to smile. She is not suffering anymore, but smiling down upon you.
In the end, it's the happy times that count, not the sad ones. Smile for what she was, don't cry for her passing because she would not cry when remembering her life with you.
2006-07-15 14:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you care. Simply express to him that you are sorry he has to go through this difficult time. If he is religious, you might offer to pray for him and his mother's soul. Don't say you know how he feels, or that his mother is better off or not in any more pain, etc... He hurts, and needs to have his grief validated. Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Let him cry in front of you, if he needs to. Listen to him, or let him be silent. Be "there" for him in the coming days, and don't forget him on the anniversary of her death. I usually send a card that says that "I know what an important person he/she was to 'you' and that he/she will be missed". Good luck.. And... I'm sorry for his loss!
2006-07-15 21:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my dad died, no words were needed, only a friend to sit by my side at times and just be there. Understand why I burst into tears for no reason, and me not having to apoplogize for doing so. Don't even have to say your are sorry, just a hug will do.
I hated the world at the time, but not my friends.
2006-07-15 21:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close to this person just talked about the good memories that you have about his mother and joke about the bad ones. If you are not close just let them know it will only take time to feel better but just to remember that his mother will live forever in his heart.
2006-07-15 21:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
words? there arent very many words. just be there for the person. just be there. when they need to talk. nething or just sitting there in scilence with someone can make someone feel better. i cant say ive lost a parent but i have lost an aunt atleast 2 grandparents (i cant recall how my gpa's died because i was to young to know them) and i was very close with my aunt and when she passed away there were all these people sayiing hey its going to be ok atleast shes in a better place now be thankful for what you have and it didnt really help. but my best friend just kinda came over and we hung out and that just made me feel better. of course if they want to talk to you bout it just talk to them. let them knwo you are there for them and that you care about them hope everthing works out and i send my condolences to your friend
2006-07-15 22:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by penguinxcrossing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so much about what you say...it is more about being a good listener and lending a shoulder to cry on.
2006-07-15 21:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can say, is"I'm so sorry for your loss" There is no right answer to this question.
2006-07-15 21:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them how death is not an end but only a step we all must take, how she will always be with him and one day they shall reunit
2006-07-15 20:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by julian r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she believed in God, tell them that she is having her new life in the heaven.
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2006-07-15 21:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by soleilmavis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she is no longer suffering.
2006-07-15 20:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by xenomorph_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋