I mean how do the parents' attitudes change. How do the mature. My uncle is about to have a baby and I want to know ahead of time what the effects are going to be on him. I met him a week ago and he was really cheerful as he always is. I want to know if that will change. Will he pay less attention to me?
2006-07-15 13:32:57 · 17 answers · asked by megamak93 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I mean how do the parents' attitudes change. How do the mature. My uncle is about to have a baby and I want to know ahead of time what the effects are going to be on him. I met him a week ago and he was really cheerful as he always is. I want to know if that will change. Will he pay less attention to me?
Thanks guys. I won't pick a best answer because they are so helpful. I will remember the advice you gave to me. So thanks again.
2006-07-19 16:55:10 · update #1
dont worry he might just be more tired because the baby MIGHT keep him up at night or like i was the baby might sleep ALWAYS hehe i was a good baby but dont worry he will still pay attention to you.
2006-07-15 13:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that if your uncle is about to have a baby that he pays a lot of attention to the baby. That may remove some attention he pays to you, simply because we live in a world of limitations and boundaries, and there's still going to be only 24 hours in a day and only 7 days in a week, so you may lose some attention from your uncle. Whether he stays cheerful or becomes more "serious" will depend on variables about your uncle that would be impossible to list here, but he most likely will change some. I don't know if you live in your uncle's home or not, but don't be worried. He still loves you. It's just that a newborn has a tendency to change us, or at least it did me when my kids were born 20 and 22 years ago. But I can guarantee your uncle will still love you. My neice is still like my child to me, and she's 32 now. God Bless you.
2006-07-15 13:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my first child, my attitude didn't so much change as my maturity level did. I realized that I was a mother now...I had far more important things to do than go out drinking and partying every weekend and leave my baby with a sitter. I didn't treat any of my family differently.
As for your uncle...I don't know him, so I really can only guess. My guess would be that since he's going to be a dad (for the first time, I assume?) he'll probably devote most of his time and energy on his new baby. You might come second fiddle for a while, but I doubt it'll be intentional or have cruelty behind it. I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
2006-07-15 15:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure there is any predictable change. Yes, priorities change, yes the baby is going to take up a ton of his time. I don't know how much time he spends with you so I can't say if that will change or not. Do you live with him? If not, you probably will see less of him for a couple of years.
He should still be the same person, though a lot more tired for a whle.
You're getting a new cousin and that will be another person to love you and eventually look up to you, just like you look up to your uncle. This is a good thing. No one can have too many people that love them.
2006-07-15 13:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uncle is going to become a father, that will definitely change him, probably for the better and yes, the new baby will effect the attention you receive. He will still love you as much as before but he will have a new baby, his own baby to love, raise and give attention to.
As for personality changes, everyone is different but I would hope anyone who has a baby grows up really quick, becomes very mature and responsible.
2006-07-15 13:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as he will have his own child, I would say yes, he will probably pay less attention to you. My sister had kids and her entire life changed.
Your Uncle will be sleep deprived, changing poo diapers, and nothing you can do will ever be as cute as what his baby can do. It's nothing personal. That's just how it is. He won't love you any less, but he won't have as much time or attention for you. Share in his joy and offer to help out with the baby if you want to spend time with him!
2006-07-15 13:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't pay any less attention to you, but he may seem tired, and maybe less cheerful for a while. Tired people, just aren't to cheerful. When the baby is born it will be the happiest day of his life and he will look to you like he is floating on clouds!
2006-07-15 15:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to spread his attention out just a little so you both get the attention you deserve Don't worry he will still love you just as much. You could even help with the baby then you both will be getting attention at the same time.
2006-07-25 07:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say that, they will get very little of sleep and they may need some help with the new blessing of the family, So pay attention and be a helping hand.
2006-07-15 13:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter. His main focus should be his child. So, he may pay a little less attention to you. But, I'm sure you will still get plenty of time with him. His first obligation is to his child. That is what being a good parent is!
2006-07-15 14:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋