What is the best way to gain confidence when dealing with people?

Question

I have pretty low self-esteem and my confidence level is probably lower than that. I love meeting new people, but when I am faced with the opportunity to meet people I usually crumble under pressure. I dont think im ugly and there isnt anything really wrong with me I just think that there are a lot of people that are too good for me or that I dont quite messure up to. I dont really try to impress people cuz I figure what's the point. I dont think much of myself and often question why the people who like me like me. Most of my friends think im crazy because they say im a nice person and all this stuff, but I dont believe it for myself. How can I change the way I feel about myself?

Answer 1

Start giving yourself reasons to be impressed with yourself. I was a big nerd and had no friends until my sophomore year in high school. The change I made that helped me gain confidence were as follows:
1. I started exercising every other day and built alotta muscle, so I was impressed with my strength.
2. I got rid of the glasses so and got contacts, then I cut the fro off my head and got a style, so I had a fresh image to work with, one I couldn't hate.
3. I practiced approaching people any time an opportunity arose, whether it was embarrasing or not, I did it.
4. Finally, I asked myself, "Why do I let myself be so depressed? It just degrades the quality of life."

You just have to prove to yourself that you are awesome! I got so many friends after all those years, and I thought i'd be alone all my life...anyway, it worked for me, just try to adapt something I told you to your situation.

Answer 2

Steive, getting drunk is not the way to solve this. That will only make things worse. I would say, lie to urself. I used to be in your shoes. Very shy and didnt think much about myself. But I told myself, you are confident and feel good about urself. Trick ur mind into thinking it and ur heart will folow. Start by telling urself b4 u go to sleep, over and over. Then hold ur head high, and tell urself that during the day. Pretty soon u will be the most comfterable person you kno.

Answer 3

First off always tell yourself you are just as good as everyone else. In fact stand in front of a mirror and say this everyday until you believe, really believe it. The only reason you are under pressure...you are putting it on yourself. You do measure up because you do have friends. You don't have to impress people...all you have to do is be yourself. One who likes herself for who she is.
People like you because you are so like able and a good person. Sometimes we have to look deep inside ourselves and ask ourselves where are these negative feelings come from. Perhaps it may have something to do with your back ground..I don't know what has transpired in your life. I can tell you this be Thankful people like you and that you have friends. Do not put yourself on standards you may not be able to reach currently. Just learn to love yourself and I know God loves you, so pray for God to help you through this difficult time and remember you are equal to everyone else, I assure you.

Answer 4

Show respect to everyone you meet. Give thought to their ideals and values and accept everyone as a person. Help someone less fortunate than yourself every day and you will be rewarded with kindness and respect from others and you can be confident that you made a good difference in someones life. If you have trouble finding the good in your own life, help make someone elses good and you will surely gain the self-respect you need.

Answer 5

well, only U can change U... u know what i mean,, just be urself, repect others, be honest & kind to them & they'll treat u in the same way... get a paper & make 2 lists: what i love about myself & what i hate about it.. u can get some help from ur best friends who're really honest with u, wish u the best & want u a better person... do excersice, stand up high with ur shoulders back & head up.. all these things would do magic in ur confidence & self esteem... & GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 6

Act like you are confident! Even if you are terrified inside, usually the other person won't know the difference. Just pretend that you are just as good as everyione else ( even if you don't believe it) If you behave with confidence, like you know what you are doing, where you are going and who you are, then other people will believe that you have confidence...it's not being fake...it's just acting until you have spent enough time around new people to be more comfortable...

Answer 7

Try to remember that we all have feelings and everyone gets them hurt sometimes. Everyone has weak points, even the prettiest, most put-together people have their issues. They are no different than you except that they've learned to not let their bad points or weaknesses bring them down! And when you're around people smile even when you don't feel like smiling. Fake it until you make it!

Answer 8

Just continue to be yourself, but try to fin God. He'll answer your questions. When you find your true purpose for living you'll understand the meaning of your life. People who do like you, like you for who you are. Don't change for anyone, but let the Lord work through you.

Answer 9

Hey,,,,, you dont have to look beautiful to meet people and talk to them,,,, Have something to talk about,, learn things from listening to others,, and learn to relate things about what you know and have learned and listened to.....

Also,,,people are pretty shallow if they only want to be around the (beautiful people)... the cool gang and such,,,,

You need a boyfriend,, i think would help ......

goodluck......

Answer 10

learn from people who are confident around people

spend time with people who build your confidence

you can't avoid every negative person, but we all spend too much time with too many negative people