Do u think I'm overreacting?

Question

Hello!
I have this guy friend that I met this year in school. We were good friends, and we have continued to stay in touch over the summer. He was always on IM, and we talked through email a ton. Then he got a new girlfriend, and we hardly talk anymore. He takes days to return my emails, and hes never on IM anymore. When we do talk, his girlfriend always comes into our conversations somehow. Shes all he cares about anymore. He talks about how he calls her and talks to her DAILY, while I'm lucky to hear from him every 5 days or so.
I feel so jealous and upset. I expected that his girlfriend would come before me, but it seems like she comes WAY before me. He doesnt have time for me anymore.
What should I do, without ruining our friendship?
Thanks!!

Answer 1

Funny thing is I had the same problem. If he is a good friend tell him how u feel and if you aren't the only one who thinks that he is changing then try to get another one of his good friends and talk to him gentely. O.K and then you need to remember that they probalby won't last to long. And when they do brake up be ready to be supportive and kind. Back to your too normal friends. Just be patient. It will turn out. I promise.

Answer 2

first off you aren't overeacting, its hard to deal with that, seriously right down how you feel about the situation and maybe suggest a time during the day where he and you could chat online or on the phone and maybe even plan somewhere to go to for a day so you can talk to him, try to get to know his gf more cause she is proably intimatdatied by you since you know him really well and stuff she proably asked him to talk to you less because she is jelous of how close you guys are, so try to make peace with her too, even if its hard.. . .

However if your in a boat where you like him, WAIT TIL HE BREAKS IT OFF WITH HER! don't interfer otherwise he will see you as a threat to his future relationships with people once he has broken up one way or the other then he is safe teritory. . ..

Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 3

I had a friend like that years ago. Only I wasn't interested in him.

My friend and I worked together and were strictly friends. I was happy for him when he found someone. She also worked for our company.

After the pair had been dating only a short time, I noticed that he'd race by whenever he saw me and didn't want to go on group outings with the rest of the office anymore. We'd all invite him, but he'd decline more often than not.

Then about six months later he came in one day just looking awful. So I asked him what was wrong. Apparently his girlfriend had decided that if my friend didn't want to spend all of his time with her that he didn't want to be with her at all. In effect forcing him to choose between her and the rest of the world-including his family. He also told me that she'd gone through and alienated any of his friends who did make an attempt to ask the couple to socialize.

Mighty controlling eh?

Then when my friend and this girl moved in together, he told me that she'd started physically and mentally abusing him and that she took advantage of the fact that he was raised never to hit a woman by beating on him without fear of repercussions.

Crazy huh?

So I asked him why on earth he stayed with her and he said that right after he'd asked her to marry him (what?!?) she'd started doing this stuff.

I told him, "You know what? You're not married yet and you don't have to get married just because some crazy person is trying to force you to be their lifelong punching bag. So the next time she touches you, dial 9/11 and have her taken off the lease. Enough is enough." And that's exactly what he did.

So there's that horror story of a possibility, but it's highly unlikely that's what's going on unless he's intimated that scenario to you.

Most likely it's that they're at that new love stage where they want to spend all their time together and the girlfriend wants to be involved in the guy's friendships. Or it could be that she insists upon it and is perhaps even suspicious of any of his female friends. Only time will tell.

My advice is just to give it time, distance yourself from the two for a bit and make mental notes. The new love stage doesn't last forever and the leash will most likely be loosened after awhile.

In the meantime, make some new friends and go on a few dates of your own. There are tons of other people in the world and you should find at least a few of them interesting enough to spend your time with. :)

Answer 4

You gotta remember she is giving him something you aren't companionship. Not through IM but touching, feeling and there right under him. He doesn't have to look at a compuetr screen to get this stuff. Sugget you find a boyfriend and you will know exactly what I mean.

Answer 5

you like this boy dont you? its ok most of the guys i liked wer my friends b4! i suggest you get a boyfriend! look in the yr. book or sumthin and find a cute guy! think about him all the time til he takes ur mind off the one guy! you never know it might even make him jealous! or if you think about it he may like you and found a gf to make you jealous! you never know! but hey in the mean time get crackin on that yr. book! good luck and God bless!

Answer 6

They're in the puppy love stage. Every couple goes through that. They ditch everyone: friends and family to be with eachother. Give it another month or two and he will begin talking to you again.

Answer 7

i think you should hop off his dick because he wasnt your MAN you two were just FRIENDs so you need to know that and its a good this that he cares about his GIRLFRIEND more then his friends because that means he likes her ALOT and your not trying to ruin your friendship with him your trying to ruin him and his girlfriend if you liked him so much you should have asked him out buts its too late now he got a girl so you have to back off

Answer 8

No. If he forgets about you, is he really worth holding on to? If you dont want to ruin your friendship, talk to you guy friend and explain how you feel. If he just rejects you, than leave him. hha!

Answer 9

you are a needy little girl.....get over it.....friends change....get a hobby....you are what people call a high maintainance friend...you are hard to be friends with because you want to talk all the time....you should just be content to hang out with im every now and again...get a hobby...and find new friends...loser

Answer 10

get a boyfriend.your probably jealous because you like him.am i right?just leave things as they are.once they break up he'll be the same guy as he was b4.but other than that there's not much else to do.just don't think about it.