My g/f and I are in a bit of a scare...?

Question

My g/f (17) and I (19) think she might be pregnant. Last week we were doing our thing and it ended up going all the way. We had protection the first 3 times and left it at that. We got riled up again and decided to go again and as I was reaching for a condom she said "no" that it felt better w/o it. I INSISTED that we used one and she rolled her eyes and gave me some grief about it. That put me in an awkward place. So I said fine we wont have sex A few mins later she starts kissing on me again, and gets on top of me and it slides in (unportected) for a second and as a horni teenager I decided to proceed for a minute or two before stopping and pulling out. I suggested the morning after pill and she declined. I asked her when her last period was and she cant remember. i asked her when shes expecting to have one and she said within the next 2 weeks. shes about to move out of state for shcool. shes getting a test tomorrow. hope its neg, neither of us are old enough to care for a child.help

Answer 1

Honestly from that it sounds like your girlfriend really wants to get pregnant. Be careful man, some girls trick their guys into getting them pregnant. They think that away he'll stay with them forever. Tell your girl to get on birth control. Good Luck. I hope she's not pregnant for your sake.

Answer 2

First NO means NO. Tell your girlfriend to leave you alone if you say NO because it is rape. If it was the other way around a jury would put you away.

If you are not old enough to care for a child then use protection.

I know this sounds like a lecture but come on....I understand sex without a condom feels better but plan ahead. There are things like foam contraceptive that the girl puts in her vagina and it is a spermicide. Of course it does not protect you from STD's. Protection is the responsibility for both of you. Since you both are at the age of getting hot and heavy think ahead.

If you two are sexually active your girlfriend needs to keep tract of her periods so in times like these you two do not freak out. Plus the only way not to become pregnant is not having sex at all. It is hard not to so please use protection.

Answer 3

at 17 i would have to question if for some reason she thinks having a child with you would be a good thing? is moving out of state something she wants to do? little seeds get planted in the back of people's minds.. that a baby will solve all of life's problems. and so if an Oops happens well you just found your scape goat.

I have to disagree with whom ever said if your in a monogamous relationship you shouldn't be using condoms and using some other type of birth control. you really should be using both. at 17 and 19 you probably will not be the last people you sleep with nor possibly the first. condoms count all the time every time. but you should have been thinking about sex in the responsible manor of one adult and one almost adult. you both should go to planned parenthood together (or whatever clinic is in your area)

sex may be great, may feel great but changing diapers at 2am sucks!!

If she is pregnant don't be surprised by you suggesting alternatives and she resisting. There are many couples out there who would love to be in your shoes and be blessed with a child. and you two have to much life ahead of you yet.

Answer 4

well from the sounds of it there is a chance but it may not show in the test tomarrow most tests dont pick up on the hormone till about 14 days after her missed period and from the sounds of it she wants to get pregnant by u. maybe cause she dont want to move out of state and rather stay with u. have u tryed talking to her and asking her y she insisted on having unprotected sex. but i have to congradulate u on being a man and addmitting that u are not old enough for a kid right now most guys dont care thay just want to have unprotected sex. but u should have been more of a man and stuck with ur instinked and wore a condom or not had sex sometimes u have to fight the urge,

Answer 5

not much help to be offered after the fact, is there?! All you can do is keep your fingers crossed that her test comes out negative and use this as a very real life lesson.

May I suggest that your girlfriend find her way to a clinic and get some sort of chemical birth control (shot or pill)?
Either that, or next time, you need to stick to your guns and lay on your stomach if she insists on not wanting a condom.

Answer 6

Is your g/f trying to get pregnant? It sure sounds like it. She's also being very vague with the answers about when her period was (most women know this). If it was less than a week ago, a test probably won't show anything yet anyway. It'd be very careful in the future.

Answer 7

It sounds to me like your g/f is looking for a reason not to leave the state for school. It also sounds like she is very selfish and only thinking about the moment and not what a baby could do to your futures if you are not mentally, or financially capable of handling this situation. Let me know the results of the test would you? Good luck and try to abstain if she cannot be more responsible.

Answer 8

OK you don't have to give us the whole story to make it look like you were trying to be responsible, i think everyone knows the whole i wanted to use the condom trick
she should take a test 5 days before her period

Answer 9

If you are both in a monogamous relationship why isn't she on birth control - then you wouldn't need to worry about condoms. It sounds like she was being highly irresponsible having unprotected sex with you and then not remembering when her last period was and such.

Answer 10

There is a good chance a pregnancy test won't be accurate yet. It sounds like she is trying to get pregnant and if I were you I'd stop having sex with this girl unless you are ready to be a daddy!