Muslim boyfriend of 6 yrs, has told his parents & family that he wants to marry me. His family have repeatedly said they are against our relationship & will not accept. He has tried many many times to make his family understand but we are getting no where. I love my bf very much & am also willing to convert & follow Islam. What can he or I do to make his family accept our relationship? We both want our families to be happy & give us blessings before we get married. Please Help!
2006-07-15 12:07:18 · 8 answers · asked by rockchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont let your family stand in the way of your hapiness
2006-07-15 12:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i ask u to look at this point of view he loves u u love him im sorry that parents dont accept but u both need to make them understand as best as u can if they still wont say yes then its their egos not their love for u both.So if u end up being together there are chances maybe not today but tomorrow in future after u have kids maybe they will accept give their blessings so u see thats a possibility so how can u break up having that possibility im not for inter caste marriages no offence but the children get the bad deal especially in countries like asia they dont take it well they are called mixed other problems but u both love each other if u end up together maybe possibly tomorrow after they change their mind u have children they might accept bless u both wish u both best of luck!inshallah hope everything goes well.
2006-07-15 19:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by aabracadabraitsdevina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is Muslim and you are willing to convert, that would still not make youre parents of his parents happy.
In my opinion though it hurts, I think you should remain friends with him. Not that Im agaisnt a Hindu-Muslim marriage, its just if your parents are not happy with the marriage, it shouldnt be.
You should still remain friends. Which relationship should fall apart: your parents or your boyfriend? I say boyfriend. You can still be friends but you should met someone that both your parents and you are happy with. It isnt worth converting to a diffrent religion and rebelling against your parents. You will find someone that makes you fell proud that you married him. Chances are if you marry your boyfriend, you wont feel so proud that you went against youre parents. Meet someone your parnts and you love.TRUST ME ON THIS!!!
Email me for any other questions. I really hope it works out either way!!
2006-07-15 19:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough fight babe. it seems like India vs Pakistan on Kashmir issue. well there is no solution to this except one, elope with your bf and don't care what people say or think. but do such a thing only if u r fully confident about that guy or else u r welcoming trouble of your own. don't let too many emotions mess up with your life. respect yourself and the world will respect u.
hey, one more thing if ur bf has asked u to change ur relegion then he is not the guy for u. but if u have decided so, then u r the most dumb lover i have ever met. ask urself one question "whats more important love between two humans which u develop of ur own or the religion which u r taught to follow (which means religion is inflicted on u)"?
rest your decisions, ur life !! go ahead !! we people can only advice, but its u who has to decide.
2006-07-15 22:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are up against forces that go so deep, families will actually turn their backs on their children rather than change themselves. I don't envy you.
I think what you need to do is essentially gamble. Do what's right for you, and hope that your guys' families come around. And if they don't, at least you'll be able to believe you made the right choice.
2006-07-15 19:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to convert & follow Islam and this will solve the problem,do it now and enjoy the life with your boyfriend.
2006-07-15 19:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Juliate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! i also have same problem i have a g/f who is hindu and i m muslim ,they are not understanding our relationship,u know i have not seen her for last six months,we miss each other alot,v r in contact with a common friend,who exchange our messeges,i know ur problem,it hurts alot friend u can mail me asdlk_1234@rediffmail.com,pls do so ,keep faith in urself and god,and pray for good,u vl be together,,,god vl help u,be in contact,i knw how r u feeling .......tke care friend ,best of luck
2006-07-16 01:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by ali h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u do solve ur issue to mail me since iam also in same situation i dunno what to do sorry tht iam asking u instead of helping u
2006-07-22 03:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by ani_r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋