she bounced right back. Flash forward to now she is 24 and weighs 165 and is 4months pregnant. She says she is going to lose all the weight..but I just want my wife back!! Am I terrible!
2006-07-15 11:17:40 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She was 19 with our 1st child and it has been 6yrs..does age have anything to do with it?
2006-07-15 11:19:12 · update #1
Women's bodies change (just like mens) and her metabolism isn't burning the additional calories and fat like it used to. This is harder on her than it is on you. The best thing is to be understanding, patient, and in 6-8 months you'll have the slim wife you used to have.
2006-07-15 11:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is still under 30 so loosing the pregnancy weight will be easier...especially if she is breastfeeding. Don't worry about the lbs too much during a pregnancy. Yet she may want to get checked out for gestational diabetes. That has a way of making one gain weight along with other complications. No its not wrong to want your wife back. Yet I would be concerned with the pregnancy and the health of mom and baby. She should get checked out now. The earlier the better. After the pregnancy she should be able to get down back to size easy. Especially since she is under 30yrs.
2006-07-15 18:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married her you promised to love and honor her for better or worse. That includes when YOU get her pregnant and she gains weight. Most of that weight is nourishing your child. You know what?? Imagine how she feels, starting out so skinny and gaining so much weight through a pregnancy. She really needs your love and support right now, not your shallowness. Get over it. She will bounce right back if she wants to, but if she realizes she has an @ss for a husband she might just not care..
2006-07-15 20:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by seraphikah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are terrible and age can play a part in it too. As long as her doctor says she is okay and the baby is healthy that's what matters. Once she has two kids to take care of I'm sure she will have no problem losing the weight. SHE IS NOT FAT, SHE'S PREGNANT! Tell her congratulations, buy her some flowers, and a box of chocolates and love her and possibly make love to her before she gets too big to do it. I have an 18-month-old daughter and my husband adored me while I was pregnant.
2006-07-15 18:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are being a bit unreasonable. You had to realize that at some point in your marriage you and/or your wife's appearances were going to change. The fact that she is pregnant and you are complaining about her weight shows that you are insensitive and unrealistic. You need to be supporting and loving your wife no matter what.
When she has the baby, encourage her to get healthy and be active, but don't love her any less because she has gained some weight.
2006-07-15 18:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are terrible. I hope that you aren't making her feel bad for gaining weight. (I suspect that you are) It's hard enough to deal with weight gain without a griping hubby.
More weight gain is normal with the second pregnancy and age can affect how easy it is to lose it too.
I hope that you will encourage her and not just make your wife feel bad. Life and love is not just about how much a person weighs.
2006-07-15 18:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by classic_tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is pregnant so women always put on weight.If she is determined to shed the weight down after birth she propably will so don't worry too much.It is normal to gain lots of weight while pregnant.With my first I gained 15kg and bounced back and second time 21kg and still have 3kg to lose so there is no big deal
2006-07-15 18:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by m41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the baby's birth, make time to do things with your wife. Perhaps, exercise? Get a babysitter for the kids and jog in the park? Every man wants his wife back, but she's not a miracle worker. giver her some help!
2006-07-15 18:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just to let you know i had four children and once you have more then one its hard to lose weight. What you should remember is that she has to be the one to want to lose the weight. and the more you bug her about it the more she is likely to rebel. Please don't take offense to this but did you marry her for her or for her body? think about how you would feel if you were in her shoes. Give her a chance. Its really up to her as its her body. she has to be the one to live in it. I have been reading some of the other answers and I have to agree with them. what they are all saying is true. you should appreciate her for who she is. stop worrying if she will lose the weight or not. she is the mother of your children, stop treating her like she is your play toy. Its time for you to get an attitude adjustment. Give her unconditional love. Sincerely, Penny
PS i DON'T think you are jerk but just have to get your head screwed on right. Think about what you are saying and how it sounds to others. it sounds very selfish to me!!!!! Sincerely, Penny
2006-07-15 18:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go for walks with her and the little one in the evening instead of pigging out on the couch eating ice cream? Help her make good food choices without criticizing her. Don't go out for fast food or to chain restaurants where you're tempted to over eat. Instead, go to the grocery store with her and BBQ at home. It will help her see that she's eating too much junk food. Offer to do the cooking and make big salads.
Above all, be supportive, tell her she's beautiful and you love her. Don't tell her she's fat. Be patient! She doesn't want to be fat any more than you want her to be fat.
2006-07-15 18:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋