What first started off as mere flirting with a young and attractive (and single) girl has escalated to daily phone calls and copious email exchanges, across travel plans and continents. As a married guy i feel i should be the one to pull out of this first. I'd like to not jeopardize our friendship but weed out the buzz and sensuality in every conversation and restore some sanity. I know we're still at the beginning and want an amicable end before things get out of hand.
2006-07-15 10:56:35 · 9 answers · asked by Raga Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
from a woman perspective and from someone whose boyfriend did the same thing you are doing right now, I can tell you DO NOT DO IT, it is a stupid decition you will regret later, I found out a few weeks ago (3 to be exactly) that my "boyfriend/fiance/husband" was writting emails and telling to a girl he loved her and stuff, he even traveled to Madrid Spain to meet her, for me was devastating, I know....for you right now that doesn't mean anything....since your penis is probably who is doing the thinking right now....but if for some reason your wife finds out and she is a good wife, friend etc, you DO NOT want to hurt her like that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND to hunt you later in life...so my advice is PLEASE STOP, now that is just the begining, you might even say...well "is not really cheating now..I'm just talking to her" well...IT IS CHEATING!!
2006-07-15 11:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lead her to Yahoo Answers and have her read this. You're probably wise to pull out of this before it develops into something more serious if you still love your wife. The newness can wear off even with an on-line relationship, and perhaps it's better that you and the girl are not in the same city. There's really no easy way to end a relationship, and hurting her is unavoidable. You may have to be prepared to sever the friendship. As a wife, I would be very understanding if my husband got into this situation, and would be supportive - but that's just me.
2006-07-15 11:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ruined my marriage by doing the same thing....you end up hurting one or the other, either way.but your wife has stayed by you, and desreves far more respect than this girl whos flirting with a married man....if you want to pull out, just go for broke, tell her, Im fond of you, but Im married and intend to stay so.....if you truly want to have an affair, then end the marriage....this path will only serve to hurt you all...i dragged my ex and kids thru an ugly divorce....and end may not be amicable, but at least youll have a clear conscience that no infidelity wa sinvolved....
2006-07-15 11:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by april m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute you feel guilty or hope your wife doesn't find out about what your doing is the day your extramarital affair started. Anytime you say or do anything with this person or any other - if you don't mind your spouse in the same room while your saying it. If you do...you shouldn't be saying/doing it.
2006-07-15 11:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End of an ending.
2006-07-15 11:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dale D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exciting/emotionally draining
2006-07-15 11:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get caught is the begining, and when they tried to impeach me that is the end.. Love Bill
2006-07-15 10:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you want to be friends with her but that you do not want to continue on the road you are going. Tell her that you love your wife too much .
2006-07-15 11:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by afvet3471 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
2006-07-15 11:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋