OK I'm 21 an I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, before him I had 2 serious relationships. I'm done having fun and going out all the time which you probably think is strange for a 21 year old I just want to go out for meals and go the pub, and I just want to get a house and a good job and be settled. My Boyfriend feels the same (hes 23).
I know he's the one I truely love him more than any of my other boyfriends and he treats me with respect and words cant describe our relationship. We've talked about buying a house and getting engaged but financially its not possible yet. We've even talked about kids but only in the next 4 years or so we want to go abroad and have fun first, whenever I mention this to my friends they make comments like "your too young".
I think once you meet the person you'll know what you want, weather their the one and weather its love. I mean my parents have been together since they were 19 and their 44 now.
2006-07-15 10:54:49 · 21 answers · asked by Ste444 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u shouldn't care wat everyone else say. it looks 2 me tat u two have made up ur mind & i say go for it. it's ur life not theirs follow ur heart!!!
2006-07-15 10:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by *islandchick* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into marriage yet, just enjoy each other for the moment. Who knows your relationship may last or it may not. That's the lottery of love. Believe me if you're not mature enough to deal with the reality of living together, bringing up children then it will destroy your relationship. Being with someone for 2 years and living with them 24/7 is a different kettle of fish. I do hope it works out for you but just have patience and I hope you can prove your friends wrong. Even if you wait another 5 years before you get married then what's wrong with that? If you love each other that much then you don't need to rush into anything do you? Good luck!
2006-07-15 11:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 is not too young for a mature relationship if you have a realistic perspective of what it takes to build and maintain a life together. You already know alot about a person in two years, and if he's as ready as you to embark upon a permanent life together, then you're ready. Just because your friends are too young and they're not ready does not mean that it's the same for you and your boyfriend.
2006-07-15 11:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 22, and we had been together for two years. We are divorced now, but really good friends and were married for 8 years before he decided that he needed to live his life as a gay man. Im not bitter. hey thats life. I can say that I dont regret marrying him despite people thinking that we were too young at the time. Hey, marriage is a risk. its a gamble. sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt. remember that most folks think and say that their relationship is special and that "hes the one". Sometimes you discover that the person you are married to is a learning partner not your life partner. that okay to. but hey you might have that real super special thing, and if its in your guts, you should probably do it and let the outcome be what it is at the time. good luck!
2006-07-15 11:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by prancingmonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you get "serious" married and all that, you have your whole life to be like that, so why do you want to start so early?
AND wait a bit more, move in together, rent an apartment first, honeymoon period in a relationship lasts around 3 years.
You're not too old to move in together, but to have kids and get married. the whole "grown up, boring thing" is something else
2006-07-15 13:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what is in your heart. Think to yourself, Am I truly in love? Can I spend the rest of my life with this man? Never go into a realtionship(w/poss,of marriage) thinking we can just get divorced because you will always have that thought in the back of your mind and won't put 100% into it,however as far as everyone else is concerned,would the way anyone felt when you chose to date this guy have made a difference in your choice? Doubt it. God gave you a life of your own to live as you see fit to make yourself happy and if someone close to you does not agree w/your decisions then they should respect you enough to keep it too thierselves!
2006-07-15 11:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by kim.york 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please learn the differences between there, they're and their. As a 21 yr old in a committed relationship I say if you and your bf are ready to move ahead, go for it. Personally, I'm not ready- we both have more school and financially we would be in trouble. Everyone is ready at different times. Your friends probably react the way they are because they aren't ready and feel that they are too young. Don't worry about them and good luck
2006-07-15 11:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say that to me too, at least my parents don't say that... I'm 16 turning 17 in a few and people say I'm really too young, i have a boyfriend (he's much older) for almost 2 years and we have talked about the same things you have... and now you must be thinking "YOU are too young" but don't label me as your friends are... i know I'm mature enough... and I'm not saying I'll be married tomorrow... but i just want to study get my career, marry and have children as we have talked... i don't know why people take marriage as the end of fun and the end of your life... probably that's why so many people get divorced because they think marriage is the end of what they know as fun...
2006-07-15 12:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too young but keep in mind that life is short. I had a child at 21 and it changed my life. Had i not had her the events after that would not have made me grow up. So make good decisions that you are sure of. And make sure you have NO regrets otherwise
2006-07-15 10:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by not2smarttoday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your too young to settle down. But you should make sure that your boyfriend is the one and only before you get married.
2006-07-15 11:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Britt Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really in love, age doesnt matter at all.
personally, i dont think your too young to get married and have kids.. my 23 year old cousin's married and planning to have kids ^_^
2006-07-15 10:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by LostxnxClueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋