Why does my wife not speak when we fight?

Answer 1

Maybe because when she's mad she's afraid she'll say something she will regret later!

Answer 2

I do the same thing when I'm fighting with a significant other, not speak. It's better not to say anything at all than to say something you really don't mean and regret it later.

When you're fighting and she doesn't speak, just tell her, "I know you're probably really angry right now. Can we talk when you're ready and you've had time to think about this?" Reassure her and tell her that even though you're both angry right at that moment, you still love her and care about her. That might even cool her off right away. But only say that if you really mean it. If you don't mean it, she'll know!

Answer 3

I think that if your wife doesn't answer you when you are arguing with her or physically fighting with her either she is scared or you or she just doesn't want to fight with. But in the most part she just doesn't want to fight and she just wants you to stop because she is scared that she is going to going to get hurt physically so that is probably the reason why she doesn't say anything at all and by the way you should not fight with your wife anyways .

Answer 4

first thing to do is ask her that same question. try not to ask her when she's aggrivated with the kids, work, laundry, etc. ask her when she's in a good mood and just say, "hey, honey, can i talk to you for a sec.?" that gives her a chance to mentally prepare for a serious talk, and if she's trying to get something done then she can tell you and maybe you can plan a time to sit and talk. dont' do it in the bedroom, though, because it can bring negativity to your sex life without even realizing what happened. talk to her in the kitchen or living room and make sure there's no distractions like the t.v., music or kids. you want to have her undivided attention and you want to make sure you can give her yours also.

here's what i think: 1) maybe she doesnt even realize how much she's not saying because shes just thinking about the situation, 2) maybe she doesnt want to say something she'll regret, 3) she's probabally waiting untill she cools off so you can have a mature discussion instead of yelling and arguing.

Not everyone responds to yelling very well. When I yell at my husband he walks away from me because he doesnt like to be yelled at. I understood where he was coming from when he yelled at me for the first time, I didnt like it very much either. It made me feel like a child being scolded by my mother.

One thing I'd like to suggest is when you get angry with her or start to get in an argument, take a deep breath and seperate yourselves. Think about whatever upset you and why. Ask yourself this, "if she got mad at me about that how would I react?", if you think you'd blow it off then you need to let it go. if it's something major then you can talk to her about it when you've cooled off enough so that you can discuss it like adults. dont forget to let her know what you're upset about. if she flys off the handle then just give her time to think about it, too. the worst thing you can do to a marriage is let your tempers get the better of you. things like that can cause resentment and it puts a wall up between the two of you.

My husband and I have been living together for 10 months and we just got to the point where we only argue every 3-4 days instead of every day. There's no passion in our relationship now and our sex life sucks big time. I've learned from our arguing that the way we treat eachother when we're angry really does effect our sex life and it puts a strain on our relationship. We were the kind of couple that most people would puke at if they saw us in public because we were so into eachother and it was as if we were the only people who existed. Now it's taking so much more work to get that passion back and I wish we never lost it.

Good luck, man.

Answer 5

She is mad and needs time to cool down. It is better to turn this way. Talk to the husband of one of those women who never shut up their mouth and you will appreciate what you have at home. Some women yell, others curse, but your wife prefers to stay quiet for awhile.

Answer 6

I do the same thing, and my husband hates it.. She has to clm down and process the information before she can speak on it. It can take day before I can come to terms on certain things and discuss them with a level head. I hate to argue

Answer 7

Maybe cause she may say something that she may regret. Or maybe you have hurt her feelings and doesn't see a point in continuing the fight.

Answer 8

She probably thinks she 'can't win', or it's 'use-less'...That's what I'm thinking when my wife starts yelling and I hold 'my' tongue. She always take the 'victim' position before even entering the conversation/argument.

Answer 9

probally she is trying to make it so its not as explosive. my parents when they fight I notice my mom says something and makes my dad more mad and for christ sake if u have childern dont fight around them it makes them sad and depressed I cant even stand to be around my parents when they fight know.

Answer 10

Its the silent treatment. Its very effective when used correctly.