what do you do, when your sister in law finds out you cut?

Question

i cut for the first time the other day...or atleast the first time that its deep enough to be noticable...and after i did it, i realised i had no way to cover them up, so i wore a hoodie all that day, but the next day i was gunna be out in 95 degree weather all day, so i couldnt do that. and i thought that i could just basicly keep my arm at an angle and position so that ppl couldnt see, but of course, i failed at that. and my bro's gf, who im just calling my sis in law right now, just came out and asked me about it while she was driving me sumwhere. she kinda caught me off guard, and i had no idea what to say. i mean, i had tried to think of sum lie incase sum1 said sumthin, but its pretty obvious what its from. so i didnt say nething, and she took that as the answer. and she said she wasnt gunna tell me to stop, cuz that could just make it worse, and that if i needed to, i could talk to her. but i just really dont know what to do. and i really hope she doesnt tell my bro or mom...

and to those of you who do not understad why someone would cut, i do it becuase it takes my mind off things, and physical pain helps relieve my emotional pain.

but, i could go back to inhalants to calm me i spose...not that that is much better as far as i know.

Answer 1

The fact that your sister-in-law caught you is irrelevant. You need to talk with someone preferably your mom and dad about this. They can and will want to help and find you a counselor. If you can't talk to them, talk to a teacher, pastor, rabbi, or just walk into a church and talk to a priest. (You may not be a believer, but most pastors and priest have some training as counselors and can steer you to the right place.)

Answer 2

I understand how you feel. I was in a similar situation where I was a cutter. I stopped cutting for almost 5 years (after college), but ran into a stressful time. While stressed, I cut almost daily. My future mother in law noticed I was in pain and befriended me. She was there to talk to, and was always supportive and did her best to make sure she was there to help, if I wanted or needed it. It isn't easy to ask others for assistance when all you want to do is cut. However, if you allow them to help, it is usually worth it. Not that I suggest this, but my mother in law and I have an agreement that I will only cut in front of her, if I need to cut. Because I only like cutting in private, it has cut my cutting to bare minimum. It takes a special person to be able to help... accept what comes.

Answer 3

Well...I don't think you can do much at this point. She sounds like she's not going to tell anybody because she told you she would be there for you if you needed to talk to somebody. I hope that you will take that opportunity and talk it out with her (if she's reliable and friendly with you).

Now...going into counselor/person-who-means-well-to-you mode...please be careful when cutting. The blood vessels in your arms are very close to the skin. Have you ever seen guys who have their veins pop out all over their hands and arms and legs? That's how close the veins are to the surface of your body! If you accidently even nick one of them, you risk dying from blood loss. Try to find somebody to talk to about some problems that you might have. A best friend, a teacher, a sibling, anybody. You can also talk to me if you would like, as I will not judge you (also because I don't know you). My email is [e-mail]. Please think about it!

Answer 4

well, if it makes you feel better, then keep doing it. as long as ur not doing anything too risky its ok. i understand what you mean and sumtimes you just need to make the pain go somewhere else. if you're worried about ur sis in law, just ask her to keep it secret because u tried it at a friend's house or sumthing and that it isnt somthing u do every day. also it helps to say that u tripped walking or sumthing because it depends on the kind of cut it is.

Answer 5

"cut?" what is that . your hair? your wrists.if it was not your hair then i would say that you are doing it for attention.cause if you were doing it for suicide you need to put some pressure behind the attempts. if you hate life .leave. then you will never know how good your life could have been.if your doing it for attention then you got mine and you can stop now.how will you explain the scars. hope this answer finds you well. lets work on your happiness.hope this helps

Answer 6

She is not helping you in the least. You need to get help or it will get worse ... much worse. You are full of pent up anger and depression. Your family needs to make an appointment for you with a therapist ASAP.

Answer 7

If you're talking about self-mutilation then you really need to talk to her about it, or your mom, or an adult that you trust. You need to deal with your issues instead of trying to hide them. There is always a way to make things better. I hope that you will get help.

Answer 8

it is incorrect on your sister-in-regulation to place you in this place besides. i'm sorry to declare that anybody who knowingly tries to interrupt up a dating/partnership, is worth no longer something to everyone. you may desire to comprehend that I genuinely have been on the component the place everyone appeared to understand that i replace into being cheated on and no person advised me something. in case you do no longer tell the spouse, it is going to consume at you. it is going to likely be even worse in case you do no longer tell her and he or she famous out which you understand. Then there is no question you have definately lost your chum. while you're having issues of it being a family challenge. i'm hoping you sense useful adequate to seek for suggestion out of your husband and notice what his suggestions and thoughts on the concern are.

Answer 9

I hope she does tell, you need help, talk to her because she is willing to help you and then get the assistance you need to uncover and solve the reason why you do this. If I was her you would have two choices, you tell them or i do.

Answer 10

why are u cutting yourself in the first place? That is not something that is good to do. U should talk to someone and for your own safety I hope she tells someone.