for the cause of children?

Question

i have a brother that i kinda recently learned about that got adopted out and all he wanted to do was find his real parents (didn't care about the siblings) but he found out that his search had begun too late and that both his parents are dead (one only one year prior to his search) in this day and age don't you think it fair that they know who their real parents are since there is so much kidnapping going on and such? i sure do...

Answer 1

Yes

Answer 2

I am adopted. I know I was adopted, and I don't ever remember not knowing. I don't see the realtion between adoption and kidnapping... But I do agree children should be told. And I think if you tell a child early enough, and explain why it will be fine. Maybe not always... I tried when I was younger to contact my birth mom, but I didn't get a hold of her. I"m not broken hearted. I know why she gave me up for adoption, and I am glad she made that choice. I was adopted as a baby, so maybe that helped me? And if I ever need my parents medical history, isn't it better that I knwo that my mother and father's health history won't affect mine? I don't know for sure, but it might.

By the way.. My real mother and father? The people who raised me. Not the ones who gave birth to me. I am thankful to the people who gave birth to me that they gave me to the family they did, and they made the choice they did. I was told early on about the family, and the situation. Or enough of it to understand and to feel loved. By the way, I do get curious about my biological parents.

Answer 3

this latest trend of "finding ones true parents" is one of the greatest arguments people use AGAINST adoption. If the child will ultimately be aided and encouraged by those around him in the media and in school,, aided to turn on the adopting parent in favor of someone who more likely WILLINGLY gave the child up, then what is the point of adopting someone at all, devoting all of your time and resources to give the adopted a good life, what truly is the point? I'd rather adopt a dog than a child.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what the correlation between the kidnapping rate and knowledge of your biological parents are, as long as everything's legal, as far as the adoption. But anyway....

Personally, I think people place too much emphasis on where they came from. They believe that, if they can just find out their roots, it'll help them define themselves as people. Not true. Who you are as a person has nothing to do with your family tree, unless you want it to. Focus on your own tree and use it to determine where you're going.

So, with that, you can gather that, if I were adopted, it wouldn't really matter to me who my biological parents were. That's not to say that I wouldn't try and find them, out of a simple curiosity, but it wouldn't be some sort of life-affirming, spiritually-connecting experience that some make it out to be.

Answer 5

i don think so!
imagine, if their parent(s) abandoned them, telling them that is only going to hurt them more!
not knowing, atleast dey vil b hopeful but, i guess once dey no- their lives will change n they will become resentful, slowly i guess this will shift 2 every1 around thm!
hw do u think this will do thm any gd?!
dey ver much better off nt knowing than they ver knowing!

Answer 6

yes they should know their parents. that way they know why they were adopted.

Answer 7

I think they should, but most won't and they have a right to be that way. It may not be morally right, but it's their decision to be that way.

Answer 8

i was adopted and im 13
i wish i knew who my real family was :(