I have 2 younger sisters (11 and 12) that have been taken away by dyfs before and they were returned to my mother since they were also being abused in dyfs by the foster parents. She is continuing to abuse the 12 yr old mentally and physically. She ran away today when my mother pushed her over the edge. I am seriously worried about her and would like to find her and take her to live with me. I have tried to get custody but the state says even though my mother is abusive she gets say over them. My sister wants to live with me and my husband and we want to take her but my mother wants to keep her as a meal ticket and continue to abuse her. Does anyone know of any loops holes that I may have missed or suggestions on how I might be able to get my sister out of this situation. Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. Thank You.
2006-07-15 10:08:55 · 18 answers · asked by bree b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yours is a serious problem. i wish to be able to help you. but i think you need an experts advice on this.
I pray for you to be able to find it here..
Good luck
2006-07-15 10:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had actual documentation like a diary or somin about when the abuse happens or how it happens for even 30 days or so written in there own writing would definitly help get em a digital cam to hide and phto the physical abuse during that time. above all don't let mom find out the more proof you have when you go to the cops the better it will be hard on them but let em know they have the pwer to get away and if the courts don't help have them go to the media with the diaries and photos whelps show up worse than they are on film. and no court wants to catch that much heat.
Good luck in however you handle this. I had to help somone in your shoes before it wasn't easy but we did it......
2006-07-15 17:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by wardancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the situation that your sisters are in, the best thing to do would be to have you and your sisters report the abuse to the police and social services. What most likely will happen is that the children will be taken from the custody of your mother and placed within social services, while your mother is investigated, but if you let social services and the court know that you and your husband are willing to provide them with a stable household, they may grant you custody while the investigation is conducted.
Good luck to you and your sisters, please get a professional counselor to counsel you and your sisters, since they need to deal with this abuse and its aftermath that will touch them the rest of their lives. However,. hopefully with good counseling, and a lot of love and support, you and your sisters can learn to carry forward.
2006-07-15 17:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on every door available in your state. I don't understand why if they were taken away from her before, were they allowed to return. If they were abused by your mom and the foster home also abused them, then the state steps in. If you have shown interest in obtaining custody of them, then speak to a lawyer that works pro bono, on a sliding scale, etc. Once abuse has been established it exist in a home that child is not returned to it. What state do you live in. If no one helps you, then try bringing light to this matter publicly, but be prepared for anything.
2006-07-15 17:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 call the police cuz thats the only reason y ur sister ran away i as abused also and i left home and now i live with my dad and my younger sister...ur mom needs help and ur sisters want 2 come live with u so call the police thats the best way 2 go don't go 2 court cuz the court will of ocurse believe ur mom just call the police and leave everything 2 them let them arrest ur mom
2006-07-15 17:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ali J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and report the domestic violence, see if your community has a crisis center or something similar that can assist you or get a lawyer and have your mom declared unfit and sue for custody of your sisters also have your sisters keep a log to show the abuse and get a police report -- documentation will support the unfit claim. good luck
2006-07-15 17:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by evilprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child Protective Services or 911. You need to document all examples of abuse with dates and details.
2006-07-15 17:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just contact child services. If your sister has any visible marks it is an open and shut case. She may not get to stay with you, but at least she'll be safe.
2006-07-15 17:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her to the police and state child services
2006-07-15 17:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the police no matter how hard it is.if your mom gos 2 far your sis might die.u dont want that.do u?
2006-07-15 17:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_dream_act 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋