How can you tell a person is gay?

Question

Personally I think gay people are really nice and just wondering how on Earth people could tell who's gay and who's not? I mean some people are straight and still lovely and wear pink (or so I've been told)...I just don't get it! I think it doesn't really matter if a person is gay or not so I never notice any difference! Help me out someone lol....

Answer 1

You really can't tell right off the bat but I have found out by asking open questions over a period of time. One told me he had a partner (he was my same age and seemed like a nice guy to get to know in a relationship but I also noticed he wasn't interested in the opposite sex in that way; kind of a subtle thing you can notice). Another person was wearing a ring on his ring finger on his left hand to deter women interested in him. After a period of time of subtle questions I was able to piece together that he was gay. Other times I have seen two women together in stores who just seemed to close and intimate in their relating and you just kind of assume they must be partners. I hope that helps you but really they are just people, good or bad; their sexual orientation is their choice and you can still like them.

Answer 2

I tend to be able to tell if men are gay - I don't know why, and I feel awful sometimes because I don't think sexuality is so simple, but I'm nearly always right. Gay men simply tend to be more feminine - not girly, which some people think - but more feminine in mannerisms and the way they act. A lot of gay men choose to exaggerate that so that makes it easier to guess. It's things like ways of standing (again, some exaggerate this).

It does matter sometimes if someone is gay - and that's simply if you're a straight girl and attracted to them and want to know if there's any point in pursuing it! Otherwise it doesn't matter to me but I still notice, and like I said, I tend to be right and have no idea why.

Answer 3

In this day and age anyone could be gay you have different characters the same as straight. This is why I believe there is no difference between those who are straight and gay. there are those who are blatently gay (but even now I have been wrong!) with short hair, dm's and the walk! what people have to remember is that these women choose to wear clothes like this because they want to be able to visual represent who they are and there are the lipstick lesbians such as myself who just love dressing up putting make-up on, shopping etc etc. There is such a wide variety of people nowadays that unless you have hyper sensitive gaydar you just wont know until you meet them.

Answer 4

you can't tell who is gay, even screaming queens and bulldykes might actually be closet bi's.

like you say, it doesnt actually matter who is lgbt or str8, only it can be embarrassing when the tomboy who has been flirting with you for weeks has a bad reaction when you ask her out for a cuppa...oh yeah, i forgot, she was married, which proved she was str8....

there you go: if someone is married to a member of the opposite sex, then they are definately str8...or are they? bisexuality, there's a lot of it about, you know: i used to bat for both teams myself for a while, although it was a bit difficult being on two different buses at the same time. that's where my schizophrenia came in handy though: i put one half of my brain on one bus, and the other half on the other bus, problem solved, enjoyed the best of both worlds.

if people could just be themselves and therefore be open about their sexual orientation, then we wouldnt have to worry about whether we were chatting up somebody/just talking to somebody who would be offended by our own orientation. and the world would be much happier.

long live love.

peace, love and tranquility, swot xxx ommmmmmm

ps, if a woman doesnt wear a bra, it isnt necessarily an indicator that she is gay/bi either: i dont wear one for medical reasons, laaaang story, although a lot of people think am trying to make a political statement by going bra-less, lol. i think they really just enjoy looking at my chest. come out, come out, wherever you are, dont go through life with one hand tied behind your back for anybody, chuks :o) be yourself, force your heterosexuality down people's throats if you like: you've only got one life, enjoy it.

Answer 5

Listen to someone talk for a while. It doesn't have to be about anything serious. After a while, you might hear them casually refer to something that will hint at their orientation, such as a prom date or an ex boy or girlfriend.

When talking about previous lovers (girlfriends or boyfriends) if they don't want to actually lie and be a bit diplomatic they tend to use the word 'partner' to keep it ambiguous. They may also use the term 'people'. For example they may say, "I like people with red hair." Instead of saying "...girls with red hair." or "...boys with red hair."

If you actually want to ask someone if they are gay, it's best to first ask them if they are bi-sexual. It seems to be a bit more acceptable, and less committal for them. You're not forcing them to be one or the other, and it lets you know if they're at least open to the idea.

Answer 6

Catching them in "the act" is usually a tell-tale sign. That is not always practical, so the next best way to tell is to ask. Be polite, though, and don't give them any cause to fear answering honestly. You might politely mention a gay friend you have a few sentences before you ask them whether or not they are gay.

Answer 7

Straight people can't. They just can't. They can sometimes pick out the bull dykes or creampuffs, but that's only about 5% or so of gay people. My BF and I actually had to argue with the last group of str8 people we came out to - they wouldn't believe us. It was lame. Gay people have gaydar, which cannot be explained. You want to tell if someone is gay or not, without just asking, ya gotta be one. Sorry!

Answer 8

Some people claim they can tell ("gaydar"). Typically they are either gay or have lots of gay friends. Whether their perceptions are accurate or not is never tested. So I sort of agree with the first guy. If you need to know, ask the question. If not, don't.

Answer 9

A good way of finding out is get to know the person then you probably find out just by taking notice of their lifestyle , choice of partner etc,etc What,s pink thing about ? I have a good pal who is a very camp femme man and he would not ever wear any thing pink so by your way of thinking Pink = gay pleeeeeeeeese have a word !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if it don,t matter why ask ?

Answer 10

There is no way to really tell without either asking the person or attempting to deduce if you know about their past interests & sexual experiences (which still isn't necessarily a perfect indicator). We're led to believe stereotypes in our society and that it should be easy to tell, but really it's not because everyone is different and behaves in different ways.