She talks about having sex but won't make the first move. When we do have sex she hardly does anything. I try to teach her but she doesnt show much interest. Help!!
2006-07-15 08:48:01 · 9 answers · asked by Mr. love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women turn away from sex when they do not feel loved. Start there.
If you do love her, tell her. Tell her all the good things about her. Buy her some flowers even if it's just one long stem rose. Make her feel loved. It doesn't have to have anything to do with sex.
Examples: Draw her a bath with oil and candles. Sit and talk with her for a time and then let her enjoy the rest of it by herself. Take a massage class so you can massage her. They have them for couples too. Cook dinner for her. (If you can't cook, pick up a nice dinner on the way home.) Get her a day at the spa. Pick her up when it's over and take her to dinner.
2006-07-15 10:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm a finance specialist, so that's how I'd deal with this. I'd lay out the documents that explain our financial situation, and make it clear that we can neither afford more children nor afford to continue to live this way. If you continue to live on credit, you are doomed to having bad credit, and you will never be able to appropriately support your children or even yourselves. You probably still love her, but the financial strain is killing you. It is a major reason for divorce, and you need to make her understand that you were not lying, you were just not well informed on the costs associated with being a father with a stay at home wife and child. Tell her that the financial strain is really bothering you, and you need a plan to get out of debt and appropriately manage the child that you have. Tell her that you love her with all your heart, but this issue is putting undue strain on the relationship, and what you really want and need to is love her and be in love again. Spend time at home together watching movies on the living room floor, playing board games and cards. Spend time together with your son at home and save some dollars. The time together will also get the two of you re-acquanited, and give you a change to fall back in love with her. Maybe that's what she really needs, and not a baby. Sit down and make a financial plan and budget and stick to it. Make it clear that there will be no more children until you are out of debt. You can't afford another child. You can't continue to do this to yourself. You'll have a heart attack.
2016-03-27 06:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that once.....did she by any chance just have a baby, a pregnancy, or miscarriage? If so it could be her hormones playing a big role in her lack to get aroused.
If she is on certain medications especially anti-depressants that could do it too. Certain surgeries like a hysorectomy can cause an imbalance in hormones.
If none of these have taken place, I would sit down and talk to her, find out if she needs more excitiment, if she is bored...she may still be in love with you, but sometimes we get bored of the same positions, same foreplay and so forth...hope we can say that on here lol.
Or maybe if you guys have been having issues or she had something bothering her that you dismissed as not important, that could leave any woman feeling neglected, or not important.
Be patient she may come around after a while.
2006-07-15 08:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by barrys_lil_cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try to teach her? It sounds tome like someone needs to teach you. There is much more to making love than what happens in bed. It also has a lot to do with how to be a good loving husband all the time.
2006-07-15 08:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kamasutra is a good place to start. Make her a special meal. Give here massages, and play with her hair, but do not show that you want it bad. However, by time she'll start coming back.
2006-07-15 08:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by prosperous_lunatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go Buddy sounds like its over you mite won"t to think about moving on
2006-07-15 09:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by 66hamerheadPD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone.
Sometimes people don't miss their water until the well runs dry!
2006-07-15 09:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU TRIED TAKING A BATH AND BRUSHING YOUR TEETH? MAYBE YOU HAVE JUST GOTTEN SO LAZY ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL HYGENE THAT YOU FREAKING STINK AND WHO WANTS TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO STINKS!
2006-07-15 09:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by BOOMBOOMBILLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beer
2006-07-15 08:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by aloisec1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋