Sure i would love to have my baby, but the way it happens scares the crap out of me. I mean its gross, painful and i just cant imagine something as big as a baby coming out of my tiny vagina!!!! Then the thought of riping or getting a episiotomy and stitches, WHAT DID I GET MYSELF INTO!!!!!!
2006-07-15 08:46:04 · 14 answers · asked by pretty_n_pink1016 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Get an epidural. With that the chances are great that you won't feel the pressure from the baby coming out. You will still go into labor and feel the contractions. If it was that painful, so many people would not do it time after time. I was in labor for 2 hours. After the first hour, I got an epidural and did not feel a thing. Your baby might be small (under 7 lbs) like mine and you may not feel it at all. Trust me. It is worth it. Babies are so precious.
2006-07-15 08:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much, it will only make it worse. Some women actually have easy deliveries. I did. I had an episiotomy with my first and it itched and was sore for a long time after. I ripped with my other and they had to stitch it up. I had no itching or burning after. When it happened either way i didnt even feel it due to the pressure of the baby pushing out. It really is not the worst thing in the world to have a baby.
2006-07-15 08:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure get an epidural, but really it is not as bad as what people may think. The worst part about my labor was the feeling that I had to poop, and I couldn't. Other than that everything was pretty easy. With the epidural I couldn't even feel the episiotomy, or the stitches for that matter. One tip though, when you are pushing push like you would if you were having a bowl movement. You will go great, and congratulations on your new baby!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-15 08:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by amber o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. Most women have specific fears about childbirth. When I was pregnant the first time, the episiotomy really haunted me!!!! Then I found out that it wasn't so bad because when my first child was born, I was so busy pushing and waiting to see that beautiful child, I didn't even know they were doing the episiotomy!! After that it didn't bother me at all.
I had 4 children in 3 pregnancies. That was about 25 years ago, in the years when they didn't give us any kind of anesthesia or spinal block or anything. It's really not as bad as you imagine.
2006-07-15 08:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most people get scared when they are getting close or just thinking about giving birth, even if they are only a month pregnant. I am due in August which makes me 37 weeks and I could go into labor at any time. Not only am I a first time mom but Im still pretty young (21). Most of my friends and family are surprised by my lack of being scared. I honestly am not scared at all. The way I look at it is that women have been giving birth for many and many of years and a lot of women do it more then one time, so it really cant be that bad. We are lucky enough to have midication if we want it so we actually have an advantage to those who didnt back in the days of cave men and all that. I also you said that you would love to have your baby so just think of the different things you will experience with your child and how special they are too you. That helps me a lot I try to think of my reward of labor not the pain. I took on of my ultrasounds and put it in a picture frame for a focus point while Im in labor I think it will help me with keeping my mind on getting to finally see and hold my baby instead of the pain. I have a lot of friends who have been pregnant and are also young and they tend to talk about how bad it was but when I talk to women 30 and up they tend to say it wasnt all that bad. My sister who is 36 doesnt even remember the pain and she was in labor for awhile she keep pushing and my niece wasnt coming out so she final had a c-section so if she cant remember then pain then I dont think it can me too bad. Womens bobies know how to guide them though and even though it seems impossible for the baby to come out of such a small thing, our bodies are made to do this. Also I have heard a lot of women say that it hurt but once they seen there baby all the pain didnt seem to matter. So just try to keep your mind busy so that you want think about the pain and try to really relax. I think that when women go into labor and are tense they have worse contractions because your musclues are contracting but you are tense so you are putting pressure so therefor it make it much more pain for you. So the time you have left of your pregnancy relax and think positive thoughts. Im more scared of the after....when Im in a store and I see a kid acting crazy or crying a the top of their lungs is when I think oh god what did I do...lol but I think its all worth it. Good luck and I hope that what I said helps you though. Also YES it is complelely normal for you to be scared and not want to do it.....I think that I am the one who is unusally becasue Im calm about the whole thing.
2006-07-15 09:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by ga_lynn84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not gross. And yes it is painful, and yes it is normal to be scared. But you have to break yourself out of this fear because no matter how you feel that baby is coming out. If you relax you can make it into a wonderful experience. If you continue to only focus on the negative it will be a hard and scary experience. You have control over your body and your feelings. Just remember how many women have done this before you, it's a right of passage.
2006-07-15 08:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by cwoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have 3 kids, and my 2nd delivery was so brutal the dr apologized every time he saw me afterwards. When I was due w/ my 3rd, he was breech and I was scheduled for a c-section, and honestly I was thrilled b/c I thought I wouldn't have to go through the pain again. When I went for the surgery, the sonogram showed he had turned again, and I had to have him normal delivery. HOWEVER, it went great and was the easiest of the three. REGARDLESS, THE PAIN IS NOTHING. IT REALLY ISN'T, ONCE THE BABY'S BORN IT'S WORTH IT (YOU'VE HEARD ALL THAT MUSHY STUFF BEFORE), AND IT'S VERY REWARDING TO KNOW YOU WORKED SO HARD TO BRING YOUR CHILD INTO THIS WORLD. Good luck, you will do fine!!
2006-07-15 09:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, calm down. It's not any more gross than what you did to get yourself pregnant! What I'm saying is, it's nature. It's normal. You WILL get through it! Think of the dumbest, most ridiculous woman you know who has had a baby. She did it- is she smarter or more able than you? Of course not!! And there are thousands like her! Not to mention all of the others out there. You are just as capable as they are- maybe more so. Talk to your doctor, talk to a SUPPORTIVE friend, and allow yourself to calm down and hear them! Allow yourself to surprise yourself. You'll know when it's time to go (yes, you will, trust me!), and you'll do what you need to do because you are the only one that can! Don't freak out- this is small compared to actually taking care of a baby! You need to find your "mom" hat and put it on girl! Best Wishes!
2006-07-15 09:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal, even more when you take into account all the horror stories from family and friends! Keep in mind though that our bodies are designed for that very process, and that your body is stronger than you are giving it credit for right now. Try to stay positive, and remind yourself that this is all natural. If you go into labor freaking out, undoubtely you'll have a harder time.
2006-07-15 08:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by jetfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of scared of giving birth, but I am ready my due date is tomorrow with no signs of labor!!!!! but I feel like I've been pregnant forever, you must not be that far along
2006-07-15 08:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋