If were dating a guy and you two were madly in love but you knew that he has three kids by three different women and pays child support $1391.99 in all. Would you marry him. Just curious. Because I did and I feel like I made a mistake sometimes.
2006-07-15 08:45:19 · 12 answers · asked by Lilia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you have to worry about it. He obviously doesn't want to get married. I mean, he has three kids with three women and he never married any of them!
2006-07-15 09:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was in your situation and I really loved him then yes I would marry him. When you tell a person that you love them and you marry them then you are telling that person that you have their back through thick and thin no matter what. Again, If I was in your situation and I married him then I would ask myself these 3 questions: 1.Why do I feel like I made a mistake?? 2. I knew the situation when I was dating him why didn't it bother me then? 3. Do I really love him and support him as much as I say I do? I give you your props in what you are doing and by standing by your man through all of these things..Good luck to you and if you need a friend or someone to talk to feel free to email me at truballa_forever@yahoo.com.. God Bless you and Good Luck Girl
2006-07-15 08:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by tru b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a situation similar to that, but, we didn't get married. Mainly because of the child support. If we were married, and they wanted to start deducting from my income, I cannot afford that. I need my income tax return check each year.
There are times that I hate the fact that we aren't married, but, it really is just a piece of paper at this point in our relationship. I know he isn't going anywhere, he is committed to me.
Maybe once everything has been paid for we might decide to get married, and have a big party to celebrate. (Seriously doubt that'll ever happen...lol..)
As to your situation, I cannot say you've made a mistake unless they are starting to attach your income, then if you still love each other, divorce, and keep finances separate, except where it comes to household finances, then split them up.
2006-07-15 10:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by colleend01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has kids by 3 different woman ... then he is a 3xlooser
and if he pays support rather than look after the kids himself then he is not the greatest father ...
so
yes .. you are # 4 making this same mistake
(girls never seem to get it)
2006-07-15 08:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot of child support! Hope your not helping him pay it. If you are, than YES, you made a big mistake!
2006-07-15 08:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that was some time ago and now he has setteled down and changed his ways. If you've made a mistake and there is no way to work things out then it's best you leave now
2006-07-15 08:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Heather M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure did make a mistake! You have just inherited his financial burden because every month there is $1391.99 less in your conjugal pocket.
Surely you realized that was going to happen before you married him.
2006-07-15 09:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Joolz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very hard for me to marry someone with that many kids, especially with all different women.
I hope you can work it out if that's what you want.
Good Luck
2006-07-15 08:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by bye bye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel like u made a mistake maybe u did.
2006-07-15 08:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by clynn0302 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trully love him you have to take the good with the bad. At least he is taking care of his responsibilities so that is a good thing
2006-07-15 08:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by wildladyreba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋