i don't type so well so i'm agonna let me wife write this so it will be from her perspective.
my husbands ex-wife pays 100.00 child support every two weeks. just recently she has gotten a second job and they have been taking payments from both checks. which i agree is wrong but the amount over is being deducted from back support owed . she tried to tell us that we had to cash it and write her a personal check for the amount but,we were told by by health and family sevice to cash and keep so that is what we have done.
when we told her that we were told to keep it and that we were. she threw a fit and called dcfs out of spite. now there is nothing wrong with my household other than being chaotic. with six kids things get that way but the children are not abused or neglected. what would you do if someone did that to you?
2006-07-15 08:36:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is for the gentleman who asked if it was worth it to fight over this I (HIS NEW WIFE) work 40 hours a week and he drives our kids to school 5 days a week throught the school year. the 2 boys both have adhd and are no longer allowed to ride the school bus because of their behavior. we live in the country and the ride to school is thiry miles there and back that takes up most of his day. we get by but the money is very much needed to get the school year started ecspecially all the extra gas money!
2006-07-15 09:01:24 · update #1
continue cashing BOTH checks and spend them on that child
2006-07-15 08:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I would probably look at the need of my child. If your husband and you can financially afford to raise your children without her assistance, then I would wonder if it is worth the fight. I would not want my children to see their mother acting in such a manner, or for them to think ill of her. I believe as parents we must protect our children. If, however, you both need the extra $2700.00 per year, you can ignore her, document her actions and present them to a lawyer, or one of you two can get a job.
I think that it is sad that parents don't want to support their own children. $200.00 every other week is not too much, if you are living within your means. However, it may be depending on other financial obligations.
Maybe you all can sit down and come to an agreement, then present it to the court.
I wish you well, and I hope your children won't end up years in counseling behind this.
2006-07-15 08:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain the situation to them and they will understand a vindictiveness of a divorced wife.
But, that doesnt mean that they "will not" investigage you, because its thier "duty" as a complaint has been filed, and they "must" carry it out, or THEY will be in violation of what they are paid to do.
Dont take offence at what they do, because its not personal, and who knows, if you take the criticism with a light heart, and actually if they find something tell them that you will work on correcting it and thank them, they will probably be very kind to you in the future when you are turned in again by the vindictive ex wife!! (yep, you can betcha she will do it again and again, as long as she doesnt get her way).
But, its going to be hard, but a forgiving nature will go a long way...
Attend a Church and find the love of the LORD.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-15 08:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the State to get off my land they cant come take any of the kids unless they have proff of you abusing them. And when someone reports something like what the ex did they uslly open a case but it will be closed in like 30 days if they cant find any evidentes to support her lies. Other thing is call the cops anytime the ex harrases and make a report of when it happend that my come in handy intime
2006-07-15 08:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by gogo69er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if she owes back child support then it is yours..You need to tell her that is not ur problem..if she has a problem with it take it up with a lawyer..
Now when dcfs..come to ur home you explain to them what is going on...Be honest with them..If your children are in good care then you don`t have anything to worry about..
Now if your ex-wife decide to quit 1 of her job then she will get behind on back pay and then she will be looking at jail time..
From my hubby experience he pays child support on 1 other child and he pays on time every month .So, before we were married hubby got behind and spent time in jail til he came up with back pay to cover the child support..So, since he has been with me we have not had a problem with paying it..
Trust me if the children are in good care you have nothing to worry about..And don`t let her have any money back..
2006-07-15 08:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an issue because these are her kids! It must be had to have to share your children with another woman. Maybe you two need to have a luch date and get to know each other, then maybe things will be easier for both of you. In this kind of situation, the only hurt and confused parties, with end up being the kids. I know it is a difficult situation, but you all need to get along for the children. Good Luck
2016-03-27 06:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is back support she did not pay and you got advice from a professional to keep it tough for her if she does not not want to be a proper parent and take care of her kid the dad has to do it like in most cases so does she
2006-07-15 08:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by blackorkid1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My current fiance has 4 children with his ex and 1 with me. She has harassed us and threatened to kill me and our son. She is a miserable ***** and I have had her arrested on more than one occasion. At least you get support, she's on welfare and isn't made to pay support even though child pertection has taken away her visitation and parental rights. Take it in stride because if its anything like my situation no organization is going to listen to her. Just avoid her and let the law be on your side.
2006-07-15 08:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by babyjake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a lot you can do, for her to call dfcs was wrong this get innocent people hurt, keep doing what yr doing and keep her at a distance, you may be able to get more $ that she has 2 jobs, she was just mad because you all were getting xtra $
2006-07-15 08:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by jordenstan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id file a restraining order...
they have every right to take back owed money..in factb they also have every right to increase her amount paid every 2 weeks since she got her second job...
you have every right to keep any back money owed to you..which is being taken from her by the child support people. dont listen to her lies. they'll just laugh at her for throwing a fit for her back owed money...
2006-07-15 08:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2savannah51405 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her. Only kidding. I know that is what you might want to do.
If you are religious, pray. You have to change your attitude and stop worring about it so much. I went through something similar. They reported me to everyone they could. I let it eat me alive. I found out that if you remain calm and don't let it bother you, they get tired of hassling you. It is no fun anymore.
My ex was stubborn, so it took 9 years for him to stop reporting me. He also got what he wanted, for me to be upset. When I stopped getting upset about it, he left me alone.
2006-07-15 08:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋