What do you do when the man your with is not good in bed?

Question

I have been with my husband for ten years and he is not good in bed at all. No matter what we try he is just not good. He is lazy at sex. Plus half the time he only lasts about two minutes. Should I leave I don't want to be a cheat?

Answer 1

If he is a good husband in all other ways, don't leave him. Get a boy toy on the side.

Answer 2

I have had a similar problem. It wasn't him ... it was me. My desires were just a lot different than what his were. I just came out and told him what I needed and "showed him" how things could be. (Told him that the current way of doing things was making me want to NOT have sex with him) We agreed that we would switch off so I could get me happy face on more often.

I love him ... that was the biggest thing.

Now, about 2 years later, he's come around to liking things more my way.

Answer 3

talk talk talk, let him know how you want to be satisfied, if you are happy with the rest of your marriage sex (or lack of) should not be any reason to leave, unles one is cheating, there are many alternatives to having satisfaction, sexual aids, and even swinging if he is ok with it. We expect a perfect marriage but know that there is also reality.
Have you given any thought to how you may look now compared to when you first met?, many times partners tend to give up on keeping up their looks. for example, if he found you sexually attractive before then after marriage, you gained lets say 60 pounds, well maybe he may still love you but may not be into heavy set women. speaking for myself i am into fit men, but once the bad eating habbits start and the weight piles on, no matter how nice he is, I will not be turned on to sex with him, this will not be a reason to pack up and tun butI know it will probably push me to look at others. I am not saying blame yourself but take a good look at yourself, then explore how things may have changed in him, in you and your need or his, perhaps he may need a little help from a little blue pill.

Answer 4

When your man is not good in bed,I suggest that you come up with other ways to get satisfied for example:if he is not good at it.Then have him get you off and he can go without.There is alot of guys in the world that are not interested in sex.But there are other ways to get satisfied,without cheating on your husband.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

first of all,have you talked to him about this?i suggest it.second of all didnt you test the waters before jumping in with both feet?i dont know,talk to him,maybe go to some sex counceling wiht him.try everything you can before you tell him its over.you made a committment,but if hes everythign else besides a good sex partner,i dont think its the end of the world.you need to realize you didnt marry this guy just for sex.i hope not anyway.hope this will help you

Answer 6

he aint good in bed because he don't want to be,nothing can make him better unless he wants to be so you have two options,live a life unsatisfied sexually or find some excitement on the side.(personally I'd find someone on the side)

Answer 7

naw you shouldn't leave your going to have to talk to him and find things to spice things up like toys movies ect... hears and idea get a toy make him watch you play with it and when your almost to that point have him come and take over

Answer 8

Ok so I am so serious when I say this GET HIM DRUNK! Sometimes a man can be a little shy about opening up so liquor can open them up to new things

Answer 9

ok gurl now dont gave him any SEX at all
wait for 4weeks then see what happeneds
of he is still not good then email me then i will tell you what up [e-mail]

Answer 10

TEACH HIM! I am sure he wants to please you so show him what turns you on. You can be aggressive you know. Take control and have a great time.